I am sorry you are not receiving any support from your family, Hopefully, you have a group of friends who support you and who you can talk to. Continue to post here on DS and you will make new friends who will listen and be supportive.

Alex, this is a great support site, but I'm not sure this is the right place for you to get the support you need. Have you looked for support sites specifically for the trans community? I think you may find more people that are sympathetic to your needs and what you're going through...just a thought.

Take care,

It can be devastating when your family doesn't understand you or support you. I would continue to post here as sharan suggested....this can be a great place to make some friends and to get some much needed support. I would also suggest maybe talking to a school counselor/therapist. It might be helpful to have an adult who is on your side that you can confide in.

The only opionions that matter, are the ones that matter to you.

I understand that it would be great to have their support, but its your support you need most.

Its not their life, its yours. Nobody should influence how you wish to spend it. They arnt going to see the world as you do, thats ok, nobody ever will because you are the only you that will ever exist.

I wont sugar coat it, the world is a very harsh and unforgiving place, but YOU are capable of whopping its ass alone, and in time support will follow.

I support you. I support the you that you wish to be. Be proud of who you are and dont let others take that away from you

That must be really hard for your family to not accept you-- be proud of who you are, welcome :-)

Im sorry you don't get the support you need. There are many groups on this site for support including ones deal with the problems you face so please look them up.

I would like to offer a different perspective of things here. See your parents grew up in an age where your choices were NOT acceptable. Throw in the religious teachings and beliefs and that just makes things far more complicated. This world has done a 180 degree turn from the way things use to be and I am afraid of what the outcome will be when its all settled.

People scream for equality for everyone, but on the other hand turn to hate and harassment of those that don't conform to their wishes. I personally DO NOT care what color or sexual orientation a person is as we are all human beings, but I am so sick of the double standard and especially in the USA. People make choices every day to be the way they want to, but that DOES NOT give them the right to either force or push their beliefs on to others. Just as you make the choice to be the person you are, your parents make the choice to be the person's they are and I feel the approach that should be taken is one of understanding and not acceptance.

Have you talked with them about your choices? They do not have to accept them as they are not their choices or beliefs, but to understand your feelings and your desire is completely different.

I wish you luck!

Hi Alex,
This is my first time here but I read your post and wanted to let you know that I will support you in any way I can. My ex boyfriend is trans. Although we did break up (which is one of the reasons I'm here) we still talk EVERY single day. if you ever want to just talk or vent I am here. I'm sorry your parents are not understanding but you have a group of people here who will help you.

Sorry but youre cute

please alex talk to me anytime i understand

If your parents don't understand or approve, your lovers will.

Don't even make being trans an issue at family dinners. It should not even be a conversation topic.

Alex,

My oldest son came out to me about a year ago. He is trans. I support him in every way possible. I wish your parents were more understanding. Since my son opened up about it we are closer then we've ever been! He is so happy and confident and that's all that matters to me! I'd be happy to talk to you any time

Hello, Sorry to hear about that, maybe it takes time for your family to accept of who you really are but trust me they still love you.

Hi, Alex! I'm sorry to hear about your parents. I can relate to a degree because I am bisexual and my parents are very religious, and they did not accept me being bisexual. It's really hard because we are hardwired to love our parents and want their approval, so the experience of rejection is heartbreaking. My heart goes out to you. We accept you. You are not broken; you are beautiful. From my experience with my parents, I advise you, as hard as this is to do, to not look for support from them. They might change, but they might not. One of my parents has accepted me being bisexual, but the other parent has never come around. I don't know if he ever will. What I can tell you is that focusing on the people who do not accept you will rob you of joy and it might cause you to not focus enough on the people who do accept you. Is there a community you can become a part of? There are people out there, young people and older folks who have been there, who will accept you as you are. I tend to be poly too. On that note, I advise you to not talk about it too much. I'm not saying to be in the closet. I just mean that most people will not understand poly, so fighting with people about that is not going to produce much fruit in your life. I think it is wise to focus on being with your allies. Sometimes we waste a lot of time, I know I have, banging our head against the 'brick walls' of closed minds. Focus on cultivating your own tribe and your own life :)

I am pan i no its not the same but if i talk about it i will be kicked out so if you need to talk im hear