You did the right thing. Hopefully now that’s one less stressor in your life. You can tell him the same thing at work too; that you’d prefer not to talk to him because it makes you uncomfortable.

I suggest that in the future you are completely honest to a person before they start harassing you. You'll save your self lots of time and head aches. You can still be nice while being assertive.

If your boss has not done anything yet you need to go up the chain to the next person. I know the company i work for has a dedicated investigation team for this type of thing. Try calling HR and reporting it to them if you can. If its a small business then you may need to go outside of it and report it to the law if he presses you further. Take care of yourself and take no chances.

I’m sorry but I don’t see the sexual harassment here. I see a man who is obviously interested in you and trying to ask you out. I think you have over reacted. You may not be interested in the man, that’s obviously your choice. A simple “no thank you” or “I’m not available” would have sufficed. Then if his attention continued, you would have a situation. Nothing you said leads me to think this is sexual harassment at this point.

I have two words: Anita Hill. This is harassment. Might want to watch the documentary on her ordeal with Justice Clarence Thomas.

Ok so maybe it is an overreaction, mtd, however I really don't believe that the workplace is the venue for " just being interested," (as if this is even alright in a workplace) and pursuing for dates. Harassment is just an inherent risk of this kind of thing because it puts one in a position where on some level I feel that I have to "not make him feel bad," and not reject him, just to keep the peace and keep working. This is one persistent person. He is genuinely pissed off that I'm not reciprocating and isbeing a dick, currently because he can't get attention. He loves to hear himself talk and be entertained. This guy could stand in my room/office for hours and talk about himself, and I could care less about his issues.

Two years ago-true story-I was madly in lust/love with my boss. And I think he liked me too. I SO wanted this man, but never in hell would I let on to this fact, pursue him, or let it be known at all. I would not do this to a co-worker either. Such an admission of feelings would place the person in an impossible situation. I had the worst crush in the worst way on him and I kept my mouth SHUT and stayed out of his way and did my job. I respect him too much as a person to put him in such an awkward place-and I would do the same if he was just a co-worker.

I think to me it's obvious in this age that workplaces are for work and that looking for a relationship will present a lot of issues. I get it-it happens-my parents met at work. This was in the 1960's and a different time, and I think my mom kind of reported to my dad. We live in a different time.

I'll be the devil's advocate for a minute: lets' say I was actually interested and wanted to reciprocate. (I'm not interested in dating my grandpa, however). Would my boss permit us to carry on a relationship in our small office? I highly doubt this knowing her. She is a pretty strict person and I doubt it would be allowed at all, even if I did want to. And usually there are policies on this kind of thing, like it or not. He still comes to my door to talk and hang out after I told him via text to leave me alone. I'm not sure what's not to understand on his part. Believe me, if someone sent me a text message saying "stop communicating with me," which I did, I would never go to their office again. Period. This is a conflict of interest at best. Not only that-he carries on for hours and I can't get s*** done.

I think it's a great idea that you blocked him. If he approaches you then you tell him to leave you alone. I've been harassed many times in my past by men trying to come onto me. I suggest that if you feel uncomfortable with him or any other man you should stay away from them and let them know to stay away from you. It's not asking too much, just be firm and to the point. I don't understand why he has your number? Don't give your number to anyone you are not comfortable with. Learn to trust your gut instincts. From one girl to another. Be strong.....life is too short to have anyone make you uncomfortable.

The only reason he had my number was because we were required by our boss to be on the text chain...

That's not good, make sure your boss understands that the flaw in thisbeing a requirement is just that. Unfortunately people take and abuse loopholes.
I would be adamant on letting your boss know that a strict code of conduct needs to be addressed in this matter and that everyone in the chain needs to understand and adhere to it, or else face repercussions.