that right. i am with you on this one, nice pot.

That's probably also the best way to protect your goat.

4 years ago we had fun posts, which helped lift people out of their depression, now i hardly see the old members and its sad, i personally know the bickering kept a few away, we once had a " copsys pub " thread that lasted 4 days !! they were the good uplifting days on here, lets make it like that again ?

I like fun but I hate hearing about innocent kids being bullied. I also like the report feature better than the ignore button. I find it only silences the problem for an individual, but I can see it from both sides.

Now if they would only add an edit reply button here. I meant that I hate that people have to cut others down to feel better about themselves. It's such a shitty thing to do.

People weren't "just cutting someone down to make themselves feel better".

They were pointing out fairly blatant abuse on two Boards here; also, a pattern of repeated abuse of the members who frequent them and their good natures & willingness to help, as well as some very clear hypocrisy.

Toxic people who whine and moan and abuse people endlessly are apparently welcome. People who truly see the facts for what they are are encouraged to leave, if not "gotten rid of" by goons making who-knows-how-many multiple reports.

To point out clear and repeated TOS violations is not bullying and nastiness. It is simply the truth.

Smart people may even have been spared the irritation and dismay this member has caused so many others, by reading these revelations and paying attention.

I say credit should go to the people who had the guts to speak up.

AND a full investigation of the member they referred to should be opened immediately, dating back to when she started here.

It is wrong and hateful that your daughter should be bullied, ao. The kids doing this should be held to account for it, every time it happens.

But comparing that situation to what has been going on here is like comparing day to night. There is almost nothing in common, when all the facts are known, except that both cases involve human beings.

There are other ways to handle your business.

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter, and the abuse she suffered..I think bullying is about the lowest form of human behaviour..No time for bullies at all. My son is "different" and will always be vulnerable to abuse from others, just because he may act in a certain way!!!

I know things have been getting heated here lately and people have been hurt by an individuals behaviour... I have read bits and I found it sad to see such bitterness.. I'm not taking sides because I dont know the full story.. One of the first thing drummed into us, where I work is to be non judgemental..Always a bigger picture to what can appear obvious..I have seen staff who are trained in Autism, constantly jump to conclusions about an individuals behaviour only to be proven completely wrong.. I've done it myself also.. People with Mental illness's are complex and can do some very strange things...I hope the person in question can get the help she needs..I'm very sorry to the ones she hurt, I hope they can carry on reaching out to others here after what happened.

I hate the fact that your child is being bullied. Kids can be so mean.

I am trying hard to stay out of this mess on the boards this weekend...very hard. But, the many posts on it just makes it worse.

We use to have fun loving post but we also had some pretty bad fights in here 4 years ago too. They usually revolved around one or two people in an argument.

I say, to everyone, quit fanning the flames and it will die down on it's own. We lost some very good members due to being goated into the point of exploding. Each post to that link fanned the flames just a little harder. It should have remained private.

The members we lost have the option to come back and they usually do after they cool off under a different name.

A word to the wise, you can not call someone out by name when you are arguing with them. You can't blantally call them names. There is a difference in telling the truth and attacking someone. And, there are time when the entire conversation is blown wayyyyyyyy out of control. If it were not for fanning the flames it would have died downed on it's own. So, in a way, we are all guilty.

I agree wholeheartedly with that last paragraph. Thank you for putting it so well. Although, I do hope that people ARE cooled down when they come back.

We are all very sad people. Hurt and afraid....etc. So, maybe we will be able to call it just that. Forgive, compromise or walk away? I have learned that no response can be the most influential. People are left to work on themselves instead of you.

:)Peace

I'm really sorry about the bullying. I have seen such extremes with kids over the past 20 years...from light teasing to inappropriate behavior to outright bullying...I have no tolerance for it either. I also have a son who is for the first time becoming aware of the stigma he may have to deal with if he is labeled as special needs. I struggle with trying to figure out the right way to handle things for him, hoping I am making the right choices. You wish you could be there always by their side to protect them but you can't all you can do is be there for them when they need you. I hope your daughter finds some healing.

I do believe much patience had been shown to the offending member. That was pointed out numerous times. Every time goodness and willingness to help was shown to her, she generally responded by abusing people's patience (privately) to the extreme.

In several cases, I know she went over the line in her correspondences with them. She triggered and upset many people.

Frustration and anger that she continues to get away with such reprehensible behaviour is pretty natural, I think.

yes, nice pot !

She didn't take advice. That's her offense. not a crime.