Depression Support Group
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hi everyone in depression -
judging from the amount of hostile email in my inbox, it appears that DS is being accused everything from not banning enough people on the site to banning too many folks. i've said this before, but given the current state of things, i'd like to repost some of the 'secrets' behind DS and our abuse policies:
1) PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE understand that we'd like to never ban anyone from DS, and the vast majority of the time when we do take that drastic action, it's because a member has been extreme in their violation of our Terms. 99.9% of the folks on DS have no problem with our policies, and we never touch or deal with them at all, except to answer their tech support questions.
2) let me be specific: if a member threatens another member with physical harm, or brutally insults one or a series of members, they will typically be warned, and when it happens again, we have no choice but to remove them. Understand that we are a place of support. It's simply unacceptable to berate, harrass or threaten someone else on our community. I think you'd all agree? Please understand that we take this issue VERY seriously.
3) We're all about second chances - we understand that folks make mistakes, and hiding behind the computer can cause all of us to say things we'll regret...but we can't continue to ignore abuse forever.
I hope you all understand that we have no bias at DailyStrength...we don't know any of you personally, and we're only interested in providing a warm and supportive place. I'm particularly disappointed in those of you who choose to believe another member and immediately accuse us of treachery. Before you attack and yell at us, can I ask you to at least enquire so that we can give you our side of what's going on?
I don't know what to say...I'm stunned at how the focus of this community has moved from one of warmth and caring to bitterness, and I want to know how to stop that immediately. I look forward to your responses as to how we can get back on track.
doug
judging from the amount of hostile email in my inbox, it appears that DS is being accused everything from not banning enough people on the site to banning too many folks. i've said this before, but given the current state of things, i'd like to repost some of the 'secrets' behind DS and our abuse policies:
1) PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE understand that we'd like to never ban anyone from DS, and the vast majority of the time when we do take that drastic action, it's because a member has been extreme in their violation of our Terms. 99.9% of the folks on DS have no problem with our policies, and we never touch or deal with them at all, except to answer their tech support questions.
2) let me be specific: if a member threatens another member with physical harm, or brutally insults one or a series of members, they will typically be warned, and when it happens again, we have no choice but to remove them. Understand that we are a place of support. It's simply unacceptable to berate, harrass or threaten someone else on our community. I think you'd all agree? Please understand that we take this issue VERY seriously.
3) We're all about second chances - we understand that folks make mistakes, and hiding behind the computer can cause all of us to say things we'll regret...but we can't continue to ignore abuse forever.
I hope you all understand that we have no bias at DailyStrength...we don't know any of you personally, and we're only interested in providing a warm and supportive place. I'm particularly disappointed in those of you who choose to believe another member and immediately accuse us of treachery. Before you attack and yell at us, can I ask you to at least enquire so that we can give you our side of what's going on?
I don't know what to say...I'm stunned at how the focus of this community has moved from one of warmth and caring to bitterness, and I want to know how to stop that immediately. I look forward to your responses as to how we can get back on track.
doug
i sent a nice email lol
x
thanks DOUG and the gang
peace
i agree with most that jane is saying
TRUCE
PEACE
Rhonda
i would not be alive today if it were not for Daily Strength,
1) I endorse the IGNORE feature. People who add a lot of ignores to their profile will stand out as easily offended people. Those who get added to a lot of ignore lists will stand out as offensive people.
2) Swearing may be part of life. WTF, I do it in real life, it is a VERY situational thing. I would like to see less of it, but with the absence of body language swearing can be a very important tip that a person is really hurting, or very angry.
3) Avatars are an odd thing. As with the swearing, I wish they were less in your face. But I can get used to that, so what the heck, I can see past them.
4) Perhaps DS staff could label some threads as "intense", and then the "Add" button would feed into a delay loop that would then ask "Really?"
5) Groups of people in the real world have ways of self monitoring. Perhaps more of us need to add the word "CHILL" in much the same way we add "bump".
In any event, I like this community. I have not experienced any attacks, perhaps I have not fully "let my hair down" yet!
Thanks to Doug and all the staff for keeping this site going. In my sort time I have already seen you all reach out to somebody who was hurting and tried suicide. So even in all this hoopla, lives are being saved and sould reassured.