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imiru
imiru

I havent used this site in years. I stopped coming here when I thought all of my problems were taken care of but that was silly to think.  My problems have followed me and have nearly cost me the love of my life. I never realized I gained bad coping habits from watching my dad's PTSD rages for years.


1. I let my depression take hold of me and keep me in a self pity rut.


2. When my anger and depression mix they make me spew out hurtfull things that I never mean to say, causing loved ones to stay away from me.


3. I bottle all of my fears my anger and my heartache till it bursts and I take it out on whoever is near me at the time.



I want to get rid of these habits. I'm so sick of pushing away my loved ones and being a monster like my dad was and is, even though he tries his best. I have learned a few healthier habits but I need more advice. I'd like to have someone or a few people to talk to about these problems. I want and need so very much to get better. 

faye1234
faye1234
I have had times where I let things get to me. I use to let things build up to the point that I would cry and cry. It is easier now. I still have those day, but not as often. I have found some things that give me joy, just little things that make me happy. That seems to help. Is there anything that brings you joy? Sometimes just little things makes things better. I will pray for peace in your life.
iwontbackdown1
iwontbackdown1
Yes. I've done it quite a few times...many, in fact. Do you realize how you're better than you Dad already? You know what this can do; you seen/felt it first hand. You came back & you're posting.
Do you have a lot of contact with your Dad? I ask because it's hard to think more clearly if you going through it.,,,the proverbial "can't see the forest for the trees." If not, keep posting. Keep asking too. I'm sure you can help PTSD members because of your experience with it and letting some healthier habit take hold of you.
I get educated from others here ~ who are, by the way, really good people!
WELCOME BACK.
billwfriend
billwfriend
hugglies
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Generally people would go to a Therapist to learn coping skills and healthy ways of dealing with depression. Some folks can't afford it, some folks just choose not to. There's a website that gives a really good list of coping skills to help you get through the depression and the way it can take over your life. Here's the link:

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/dealing-with-depression.htm
imiru
imiru
Thank you all for the helpful posts and yes I still stay in contact with my dad because he's 75% combat disabled. He has to take a lot of pills everyday for the pain, he has part of a fake spine, fake hip bones, fake toe bones and shins. I always get so worried about him even after our screaming matches.
TooMuch
TooMuch
Big hugs. You sound so wise and level headed and inspired to make positive changes. That's inspiring. Lots of good advice already here and I can't think of anything to add without knowing what you're trying already (not that I'm a wealth of good coping skills anyway) but I'm glad you're here.
Sketcher88
Sketcher88
I'm with you. I just returned to the site after being away for a few years. Welcome back. You have the skills to get through this. You do! Maybe you need reminded of how to use your skills.
AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
Welcome Back! I find that just venting out my feelings in journals can help me against the big blow up. I also recently purchased a punching bag to work out my frustrations on. Keep posting. Big Hugs!
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