i'm really sorry things keep turning out badly for you. What are your girls doing to stress you out? Is there anyone who could take the girls for you for the weekend so you could get a break?

Well they are 16 so the boyfriend drama and the school drama is on my last nerve. No there is noone who will keep them for the wekend. I wish there was I need a break.

Send the girls somewhere. If you can get some help it would be great.

Well added to the twin girls is my 17yo daughter and shes driving me just as crazy.

Bamamom - I just want to tell you how proud I am of you for reaching out. I know you are going through a difficult time right now and I am sorry. That being said, I have much faith that you will make it through this difficult time.

We are all here for you. I am keeping you in my prayers and thoughts.
((((((((((( much love to you))))))))))))))))

Thank you...I love you too

Bamamom, can you tells us a little bit more about what the children are doing; it might help us to understand more- thank you.

Well they have called home 2 days in a row wanting to come home they are having a hard time at school. Then there's the boyfriend drama when they get home. Then the arguing between each other and with me. I just don't know how much more stress I can take.

Hi,
Vent all you want here.

Just know this..(I'm sure you already do)

It is your daughter's sort of "job" now to test you and see how much they can get away with.

You know this. You have twin 16 year old girls and a 17 year old girl.

God bless you.

I'm sending you a virtual relaxing pill, a deep tissue massage and a head set/ipod filled with your favorite music.

Don't take the relaxing pill. It's just nice to know you have it in case you really do need it.

They are testing you, so it is very important to choose your battles carefully. You have boundaries, and your boundaries are important.

They are NOT adults. They look like adults, sometimes act like adults but they are not adults.

Vent here, and just remain calm with them. I know how hard it is. I truly do.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))))))

..survivor of raising two grown up young men here. Keep up the good fight. It's hard as heck but well worth it. Hugs

Thanks everyone for your advice. I am trying to relax and let some of it go but thats really hard for me. My kids are my life and seeing them hurt hurts me. I just hope all this drama ends soon.

Well, some drama is different then other drama.

Is the drama just typical teenage girl stuff, or is there bullying involved?

If you want to share the specifics and still remain anonymous, it might help.

Some drama isn't drama at all, if you can understand what I'm trying to say.

Some drama you DO need to listen to, other drama you should NOT get involved with.......

no its bullying. kids making fun of the twins over a temporary medical condition.

Bamamom - My heart goes out to you and your children. I am so sorry to hear this. Bullying is a horrible experience for your children and you.

Have you been in contact with the school's administrators?

Well, do you see?

This dynamic has just changed. You must take care of yourself, so you can properly take care of your girls.

Use the oxygen mask/plane analogy.

Now, please, what is happening to your girls??

I will stay up tonight to help you if you want to continue on this thread.

Bullying is NOT acceptable, ever.

(((((((((HUGS))))))