Welcome to DS sterotype…… There is a board on here to discuss healthy relationships … I'll give you a link to it

At the top of the page where it says my groups it shows all of the different groups on the site and there's some good ones.... Big hug

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/healthy-relationships

I've heard a lot of times that this happens once a relationship feels comfortable and it's honestly super sad. Lack of effort and just not realizing that you can't just stop telling your significant other than you love and appreciate them. I'm not sure how you are going about it, but may ask to have a conversation with him, because if you are just making comments while he is in the middle of doing something it may come across as "Naggy" which doesn't make it hurt any less nor does it make your points any less valuable. However you may get a better response if you set aside time to brainstorm, discuss feelings and have a game plan on when to set aside time for just the two of you. even if it is just 10-15minutes before bed or before work in the mornings! Hope that helps! Know you aren't alone!

I'm divorced, sterotype, so bear that in mind as I respond to your question about loneliness, which is to say that I never felt so lonely as when married to someone who ignored me. Being single after dissolving the marriage is not as lonely as that felt to me. I did marriage counseling, individual counseling, and support group work to try to connect with my spouse, but could not. See if that DS group here SunCloud suggests can help, ok?

And to add to the two excellent replies, I will say this.

You are responsible for what you say, what you do, and how you react and respond.

Once you change the way you respond and react, then the situation will change. Not always for the better, but it does change.

No one can make you feel better except you.

Best wishes.

Thank you all this help and a lot of what I been telling my self sometime we as human just wont to here it from some one else much love