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A shout out to all women who have estranged adult children.
I am and have been estranged from my adult daughter for the past 15 almost 16 years. The choice was hers not mine and I did everything everyone recommended from constantly reaching out to seeing a family therapist. You name it I did it. I have a granddaughter that was 6years old in June of this year that I have never seen. I have an old picture of her when she was three that my youngest son received from her father a few years ago. It is and will probably be the only thing I will ever have. At least I know what she looked like at that age and the mystery of wondering helped somewhat. Now my youngest son is doing the same thing his sister did after seeing what I went through and saying he would never do that has decided to follow in her footsteps. A baby boy was born to him and his wife in December of 2015 and they have been tormenting me with refusing to let me see him because I said something they didn't like. I questioned why they were putting him in daycare all day when my son unemployed was home all day and I would help take care of him while the mother worked. That was the end of me after much foul language on the phone and threats that I would not see him. They have kept their word and I cannot believe I am going through this again. I am trying to understand what I did wrong as a mother to have 2 adult children do this and they kept telling me that I was a terrible mother but was never specific about what I actually did. I have endured so much heartache, shame and confusion that I sometimes wonder how I still function as well as I do. From what I have read, this has become the silent epidemic and it is on the rise. I feel like such a freak and friends and family members who care about me feel such pity and fear that the same things might happen to them that it becomes the subject never talked about. I sometimes wish I could develope amnesia because it is all I think about every day. Shame and embarrasement have become my constant companion. I know what lies ahead and I dread each new day. Don't know if anyone has encountered a similar experience. If so I would like to hear from them.
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Look at what my best friend did with my picture!
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We all have 24 hours in a day. How we spend these hours is important. Watching a little bit of a video about how sitting affects us made me aware of how much sitting and laying down I do. Gonna have to work on that.Your turn. Tell me another truth.
BUT, I'm not going ANYWHERE. The few of you out there with an agenda to scare people into thinking this isn't a good place, to stir the pot, to kick and scream about the changes just for the sake of kicking and screaming, no one hears you any more. That's the sad thing. You may have had legitimate concerns. Hell, I have concerns, but you sort of lose everyone when you go ugly. So, knock yourself out. Things are going to continue whether you want them to or not.