Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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ReikiGoddess
ReikiGoddess

Life never is what you expect. I was married 23 years to a man that was verbally and emotionally abusive. I gather my will and leave to forge a new path to only find myself seeking relationships that followed the same routine. 


I  ended a three year relationship not so long ago with a horribly narcissistic man that I just can’t break free from. I feel alone. I tried dating again and just found that really I am not healthy enough to proceed in a positive direction.


I have just realized that I have spent my entire life being codependent and it’s misery to say the least. I can’t continue down this path however I have no idea where to even start. I am reading co dependent no more, found a co dependence 12 step program and will go to my first meeting on Thursday. I just feel so lost and worthless that I let the people in my life control my happiness and peace. I have pulled away from any friends that I had and my family is a huge contributor to my situation. I am not sure what to do. 

Whattodo
Whattodo
Hi ReikiGoddess, it sounds like you've had some major realizations of late and have taken some action around improving your experiences in relationships. That is great. I'm sure both the Codependence groups - this one and the face to face one will provide great insight and show a path towards your health and recovery. Good luck!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I made the same mistake because I didn't love myself so I was looking for love in the outside world and it was just one toxic relationship after another.

Using the 12 steps, I learned to let go of past judgments that made me feel like a victim and now I am taking responsibility for what I feel. Now I have a great life and I have never been happier'

God Bless
michellebrand
michellebrand
I can totally relate to everything you are going through. I'm going to my second meeting tonight. Please feel free to write me.. I would love to have someone to talk to on this journey.. Read my journal I'm backsliding then trudging along.. The is the scariest thung I've ever tried to do.... Thing's are deep rooted and they are gonna hurt
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