[psst--The Boss, who is the Cat Mafia Boss, is a female feline--I won't tell that you thought she was a male]

The Boss sometimes goes with me in the scooter basket and it would be her saying "okay, buy all of that flavor and all of that flavor" at the cat food.

And when it came to the guy behind me having a tantrum, she would have turned to me and said "let's go to the car and I'll hit the secret button and get the spray bottle of water and my flame thrower. I'll spray him first with the bottle of water. If he continues, then I'll do a little bun toasting on him today with the flame thrower. I'll just tell people he was so flatulent he burned out his shorts in the back."

Ahh, sorry that is because mine is male. We tend to automatically think of others pets in the sex of our own. Thanks for not telling her. I don't want her on my case following me around demanding cat food.
LOL

I don't know. I think I would teach her how to attack on command. Then you can unleash her on nasty people like him.
WAIT........
I see a problem here ................

The Boss is a service cat. No, most likely you don't want to teach her any attack on command commands.

LOLOLOLOLOL

The 2 links do demonstrate another point that I made in another thread - that Dr Phil is a brute and a bully.

And I really figure that one big reason that Dr Phil is so popular is because many people in our violent society really do like and support brutes and bullies.

But some of us know better than that.

Hi Booky!

I am going on a NAMI Walk in October.
I am excited about it.

I have gone to some NAMI meetings.
I have Bipolar 2 Disorder.

Take good care of yourselves, everyone!!!!!!!

I do not believe in making diagnosises. Only doctors can make diagnosises. That does not mean that others can recognise that others are codependant and call them on the behaviors that are making them appear codependant. Not all codependants are nice people by the way. Some are controlling, get mad if a real problem that the codependant does not want to accept as a real one is forced to see it as one. Codependancy meetings is where there is the potential for civil war between people pleasers and controllers. So putting ALL codependants in the same basket is by no means an appropriate action to take. Some of them need a wake up call. Others need understanding and the encouragement to stand up to those treating them unjustifiably. Codependants are not too good at accepting any form of an identity because of the low self esteem they all have. Political correctness has been overemphasized over the years. Those whom practice it, may be the first to complain because doctors can't point to a specific diagnosis that defines where there legitimate symptoms of health problems are coming from. So how wonderful is political correctness? A debate to be debated elsewhere.
It is important enough to recognise that we are more than our codependancy. This is discoverred all the more when we discover we have an identity that is so much more wonderful than the one we carried for years. So YEAH! I'm codependant. No big deal. Those who attach stigma to it are those who are ignorant about it.....who have met codependants who were controllers and aggressive. Such is not the representation of ALL codependants.

What I learned years ago at face to face meetings was; take what you need and leave the rest. Who or what people think about me is none of my business. My business is taking better care of myself by not focusing on others and making healthier decisions for myself. I also discovered I lost the need to be Right and have the answere for everyone. Sending love, light and blessings!

I figure that most people here on this forum or that go to counseling are just stronger and more mature then those people who do nothing about their condition.

I myself love to talk about codependency, but my family of origin simply hates the very word of "codependency", and my people will physically fight if need be against anyone calling them as codependent, and they seriously resist any talk about the subject.

Therefore the point about stigma is that we need to help make so that other people can start their own treatment without feeling like they are being labelled or being given some unwanted name calling.

The strong need to help support the weak.

That is how I understand it.

That is a new way of viewing that expression mentionned by cajun. Take what helps and leave the rest would have made a lot of political correctness unnecessary.