Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Long story short, my boyfriend of almost 4 years is an addict. He just got out of rehab for the third time since we've been together.
He's been back for a week and Friday he took his car (with my books and my daughters car seat) and hasnt been back since. Wont answer my phone calls or texts.
I know eventually he'll be back and be "so sorry ". But where do I draw the line? When is it being supportive of someone struggling with addiction and when is it me just being codependent on someone who makes me feel special and loved when he's sober, but like I'm disposable and being used when he takes off to do... well, it makes me sick to think of what he could be doing.
I cant sleep well. I cant eat. Im crying all the time. What do i do?
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
Or did you end up having to let go?
Its hard knowing what appropriate boundaries to se while still being loving and supportive.
I can understand what you are saying. You want to be supportive but not an enabler and how can you tell what the difference is? It's hard. I have been clean for over 10 years only because I never ever want to put my family through hell again. Sounds like your boyfriend doesn't see it that way. Maybe he hasn't hit his low yet like I did when I lost everything, my wife, my job, my self respect.....pretty much everything that meant anything to me was gone and I had no place to go but detox and that was the first day of the rest of my life.
We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
God Bless
I don't think he wants to live this way.. he just hasn't hit the point of no return, like you said.
congratulations on being sober for so long. I know that's no easy task.
Any prayers are appreciated. We need all the help we can get. Thank you.