Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
So how do we let go of shame? The negative shame that we as codependents tend to place on ourselves. No one knows how shameful I feel about my issues. For me its about keeping up the facade. I can't be percieved as being "weak". I think I will bring up this subject at my next coda meeting. But does anyone have any advice or books to read? I think part of it is to accept who I am with all my kinks. But that is HARD!
Feedback more than welcomed...
Feedback more than welcomed...
but we need boundaries thats the difference. In this society we choose to be open, too open, and closed, or too closed. Balance is hard to come by, but as far as your facade, I think it is necessary to protect yourself. We all wear a lot of hats and have many different sides. We are not meant to show every side to every one person we know. So yes, you are right, acceptance is the way to move forward. Awareness first, acceptance second, and ACTION last. Good luck, I'm there with you. (what a codependant thing to say lol). (last line).