Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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michellebrand
michellebrand

Have you ever just laid in bed and daydreamt all the things you think the "right guy" would say? "You are an amazing mom, kind and caring" "you are everythinh I've ever dreamed of" "I could never live this life without you" " You are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen" "I'm so lucky to have you" ...... You get the idea... Like why is it in my mind the love he gives me is not enough, or not the right way, why do I always need more?? Cuz I don't like myself? Cuz I feel under appreciated? We do everything for everyone for a specific response... One we should be able to tell ourselves.. I love y'all. 

michellebrand
michellebrand
I tell him and then he gets stubborn and says "I am not going to be bullied into telling you what you want to hear" .... :( I know he loves me - i just get into my head and want to be told those things... I start to think that he only loves my because I am a good girlfriend and not because I am sexy or attractive.... but he shows me by cuddles, stopping at Wendy's to get me chili, apologizing for not finishing the laundry... cleaning the litter box... stuff like that.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I read somewhere that if we just say one loving thing to our spouse at least once a day, you will be among the happiest couples.

In the morning when I got out of bed for the day, I would say to my wife, "Good Morning, Beautiful!" As the years went by and both of us began to show signs of age with wrinkles and a few extra pounds in the worse places, I still said the same compliment, "Good Morning Beautiful!" I said this every day for 24 years!

Now that we are no longer married, she remembers how I judged not and always saw her as beautiful in my eyes, and is appreciative of my kindness in doing so. We are friends nonetheless because we treated each other with compassion and respect!

God Bless
michellebrand
michellebrand
Bob, you are awesome! - My hubby that passed away was the same way - every day he would say "Have I told you today how beautiful you are? " - He started doing this to my daughter around age 12 as well - No matter if I was a size 22 or 12 he thought I was the most beautiful woman in the world - he would never look at another woman in my presence... He was amazing! - I miss him!
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
Awww! Thats a nice thing to remember him by, isn't it? Sometimes we are so wrapped up in ourselves and our problems that we forget there is another living, breathing human being living with us that loves us more then life itself and I always tried to keep that in mind, so she wouldn't feel unloved or neglected.

God Bless
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