I'm not sure how long you have been a member before, but would you consider hosting your own meeting? Perhaps you could set something up with others you know from the meeting.

In my state, things are open. There are both in person meetings and online meetings. I think this concern you have, a valid concern, needs to be addressed to the people who run your local CODA meeting group leaders or state leaders. But also let national know. We do have the power to change things if we will focus on getting your message to the right people. Keep it very short, three sentences only and be matter of fact not to mention the mask issue. (Example: California still does not have in person meetings and we need to change that. Covid cases are down and the CDC has lifted mask requirements. I have no ability for privacy in my home so can't do online, I need in person meetings. Thank you for your time.)

Here is the CODA national website link with how to contact them. You'll notice on the page that it lists the board members email, click on that link and it will pop open your email. Scroll down to the bottom of the page and it gives an address and phone number for national. You also want to try to find leadership so you can write or call the CEO. Keep it brief, I have said it twice because so often we kind of rant and rave and that gets blown off by people who don't really care. Also try to get other members that you might know to call or email these same people. Advocacy 101. Good for you!

https://coda.org/contact-us/

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Thank you for the focus. I do need to take the emotions out of my request and be succinct. I will contact national and see what can be done.

Hi Cobalt. I had just found an amazing Coda group just before Covid shut everything down. I have the email and zoom link but I just haven't joined. The church where the meetings were has AA going on but I guess the Coda group isn't comfortable yet?
I took the whole pandemic as a sign to embrace my alone time and explore myself.
A face meeting will be nice and I have covered some real ground with my issues so it will be something to share and connect with.
I've been doing a lot of volunteer work in the community so that's been my way of getting interaction.
As far as it all being nonsense I fall right in the middle of that thought. I trust my immune system and at no time did I have any fear for myself or my healthy adult kids. I wore the mask for others and only when it was mandated. Fortunately I work for myself and am alone all day generally so it didn't effect me much.
However as a volunteer EMS I have seen the hospitals overflowing on a continuing basis so that's real. I have pretty much given up on the media and have come to the conclusion that I don't know anything about the pandemic even if my ego wants to say I do. Defiantly ready to put this whole 'whatever it was' in the rear view.
If anything the pandemic has made everyone more codependent because every time I turn around there's someone who wants to ram their views down my throat and get me to change for them to feel right. I've come to the place where I don't need to be right anymore, just me is enough...This took some real soul searching and I learned a lot about myself and others. Seeing the mental health of our society so strained is a bit alarming for me.

Oh my goodness FinallyAwakeNow, aren't you living my same life. I am finding that everyone wants to ram their ideas, either political or covid, down my throat. I am cautious, I am educated, I can read the science. The whole world is feeling alone and isolated. I am in bookclubs, and have dumped two of them for people either being mean (saying mean things about another person's thoughts on the book), or political and boy do they assume everyone agrees with you. They hijack the discussion to rant and rave about the people they dislike. I have had enough. The last two I emailed and said consider that you are offending many and notice how the room gets silent when you start the ranting. They insist they are right and that you must agree, which is their codependence I think. Or perhaps narcissism or anxiety and fear. I am using my journey out of codependence to speak my mind privately to these people about how demeaning others is not right. And I am also getting out of my codependence by not arguing with them any longer. I stay silent instead of trying to fix them, which was my old codependent pattern. I was laughing at myself the other day thinking about how I am intolerant of their intolerance and demeaning of others. People are so stressed right now, world affairs are distressing, too.