I would not even be talking to the X's mother!

I know, I feel like even more of a jerk, I try to keep the peace and make my husband happy. Im done now, no more, it is like they dont even exist to me(unless the bitch walks through my door w/out knocking again)

I think there is some truth to 'Nice guys finish last'.
I have gone into what I call self protection mode. He ain't gonna do it but by God I am!
Don't beat your self up over things you did or did not do yesterday- last week, last mth, last year-- today is NEW. When we stop making mistakes, we are perfect and God calls us home...

I have read many of the posts on here and i agree with alot of it. My problem is a little diffierent my boyfriend of 3 years offically has 2 kids by two different woman the first one would not let me around her kid at all so we hid it then she found out at pulled him out of his life for like the 20th time threaten me on numerous occasions. Now she lets him come around as long as he does everything for his son i mean everything so he has no time for me or the child that we have together he only hasa two days off and they are spent with his child. Then the other one was supposed to marry him and he ended it 3 months before because she was cheating on him. The man she was cheating on him with married her a month later she then told the child that he was his father and that his bio father was his uncle. Well of course she cheated on him as well and they divorced we have the child again and have a good relationship with him but now she wants to be up his a** constatly even though she will not let him make choice for him ex she put him on med for a made up disease she says he has a form of autism which he does not then had him lie to his father about it when we noticed a change in him his dad asked him if his mom gives him meds and he said yes every moring but she told me not to tell you . She texts him all the time making sure he is awake and that he is going to pick up the child he is a great dad he will not forget to pick him up she goes to school to cut hair but insists that he take the child to her school to cut his hair when she could do it at home her birthday is on our anniversary so i always get stuck watching not only his son but her son from her last marrage. she made him go to court for more child support the day after out son was born. Oh and by the way it is not only the second mother that treats him like a child it is the first as well constantly texting and calling he has more calls and texts from the two of them then anyone else i feel the only reason the mothers are allowing the children in our lives is to take his time away for myself and our child please help thank you

I understand, and I dont get it. Me and my son's father did everything by the court, we know that we cant get along so we even try, follow the court orders and that is it, if we disagree on something and cant solve it ourselves, we go to court. I dont manipulate him and he doesnt manipulate me, every decision we make is for my son. But my husband's ex wifeis up his a$$, this is the latest saga, he wanted to prospect for a motorcycle club, I told him, I didnt think it was a good idea, he told me to relax and everything will be fine, as soon as his ex heard about it, she said no way was she going to let her daughter around in that type of atmosphere...guess what, he aint doing it...dont i friggin matter at all??