Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I tihnk going to therapy once a week instead of every other, or whenever the therapist deems herself available, is much more effective. When it comes to creating new habits and behaviors, there is a certain habitual stick to it that you really need.
With one friend, she's gotten so difficult that I've tightly compartmentalized her and set extensive boundaries. This is one step short of just dropping her entirely. I met herself another friend met for a walk this morning. She was not happy to see me apparently because I didn't give her what she wanted-to be driven on an extensive road trips and catered to, which she is not entitled to. She was barely interacting to or talking to me. I'm not sure if, or maybe she is aware, that the connection is practicallly over. To me, with her demanding and entitled attitude she's about just out the door. Even last night and this morning I was thinking about how I halfway didn't want to go- except that I like the activity, but there are other people who do these activities too...
Our friend, I noticed, took off quite early, and I wondered in part if this was the reason. Could very well be. The demanding and entitled lady started complaining right out of the gate about how hot it was and how she hates getting up early. Right after I was saying how amazing the weather was-at 70 degrees. After our friend left, she started in with: "I only did this kicking and screaming..." I abruptly waved goodbye and took off. Didn't even let her get the rest out of her mouth. Said goodbye and sped down the hill.
ADIOS biatch!
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I've been feeling like I don't matter my wife the other day instead of telling me she was having a pain day when I went to have sex with her she tell me afterwards that she having pain day due to her fribromyalgia and making feel like shit afterward saying she has a list of things from past 9 years of thing for me to do and is always adding more and more to this list and talk...
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My best friend ruined my day with her immature, bitchy self. If she doesn't get her way, she has a tizzy fit. I told her weeks ago that I couildn't go to yard sales with her on 9/12 because i have a hair appointment. She wasn't happy. I also told her that I don't have any money to go to yard sales. She tried to talk me into going to more yard sales by saying that if I don't go, there...
Sounds like she is not happy about herself and rather than looking at that she blames everything (one) else.
That’s got to be a painful way to go through life. Maybe having more compassion will make it less stressful for you as well if you decide to continue doing things with her.
I know you can’t change her but everyone deserves a wake up call.
It’s great that you’re aware of these negatives and know to have some boundaries.
We have this strange woman in my book club. She told me all last winter she wasn't ever coming again because she really doesn't read. Then she shows up twice and gets another friend to harass me to put this lady back on the email list for attendees. Well I asked the strange lady did she want to be on the email list and got no answer. It was so crazy and I am not telling the whole story. I set boundaries within myself to not react to this strange lady nor her friend. I felt like the only mature one and they are older than me.
When they get weird, walk away. Just like you did. Good for you. I am proud of you and you should be proud of yourself also. You are learning we can't change other people just ourselves. Weekly counseling might just be better as it is consistent for you.
This friend you are talking about.... is that the one that has the cousin that calls you?