I'm so sorry. I'm south of you and the weather here hasn't been pain-friendly at all today.

Sending (((HUGS!!!))) and extra love and healing your way!

sorry your uncaring sons do not realize the gift you happen to be to everyone in your life including them....they most likely just come around for free meals and money if they are like I had been in past....hugs bill

sorry the boys are priks...

Just because it seems like your sons don't pay much attention to you on Mothers' Day doesn't mean they don't love you. Some of us just don't like the way that day has been commercialized and some of us don't think there needs to be a specially named day that dictates when we are nice to family. And some of us aren't comfortable displaying our feelings, especially when it's about displaying love for a family member. Boys/Guys are especially uncomfortable doing that a lot of the time. Personally, I never liked the idea of a Mother's Day. Today feels a bit different, as it's the first Mother's Day since my mom passed away. I both hate Mother's Day more and, at the same time, wish I would have done a bit more for my mother on this day in the past. It's difficult because Mother's Day to many of us is such a contrived day, and yet, we don't want our mothers to feel bad.

About the pain, you really should have some painkillers.

I am sorry you are having such a painful day. Hoping tomorrow will be more bearable.

I think LisaLoo had some great points. Sometimes maybe they know you are in pain and do not want to add to the stress.

I always tell my husband that the kids had a brain when they were born and I don't know where they lost it. I hope your kids find theirs soon.

Sometimes I mix it up and send them a thank you card or note telling them" thank you, because of you I am a mom and I am proud to be your mother". It messes with there brain. :)

Praying you feel better soon.
Hugs-RJ

Mother's day and Father's day are both misnomers that many folks would just like to forget...I know I would.

My insane, cruel, incredibly abusive mother died in 2009 and it takes way to much of my energy to try and remember her in any positive way, in order to "celebrate" her life on Mother's day.

My father unfortunately, is still aliv,e was also cruel, mean and incredibly abusive in many different ways, but he expects that card to arrive one day each year proclaiming what a great father he is....makes me want to puke every single year.

I have 2 sons who were always awesome kids, I love them more than anything in the world. The youngest who is a teenager texts me a "Happy Mothers Day", probably when he has a moment to spare during all of the days plans he makes for his bitch Step-Mom.

My oldest son who is 25 is the only one I get any type of love and care from. He takes time out from his wife and family of 4 to spend an hour on the phone with me, because he's too far away to drive & he knows physical limitations don't allow me drive that far and that's how he's able to spend time with me.

Personally I think stupid holidays like Mothers Day and Fathers Day and Valentines Day are just ridiculous Marketing plans made up by very wealthy advertising agencies who make lots of money off of people who buy into the crap. I refuse to do so. I don't need a fake holiday to have a meaningful conversation with my son.

gordos4 sorry for the added pain today. My two boys are grown men now but I can tell you they have missed many Mother's days and Birthdays. When they married it got a little better. The weather seems to be hitting many of us. Have you talked to your doctor about something to relieve your pain. Sometime it takes more than a med for
nerve pain.

RJ I am with you. Did the same thing today with both sons when I received calls to wish me a Happy Mother's Day. Just said thank you for making me a mom.

When you get older and are in pain a houseful is not necessarily a gift.
A quiet day is my gift. I had the opposite yesterday and got through.

Lisaloo I understand your feelings as well. I am sorry you are without your mom this year. Yes it would bring hard hard feelings. I lost my mom before Christmas 14 years ago and it was a long time before I could stand to see people happy during the season. To this day I don't shop in stores after the second week of November.

peace
hippy

I replied to another post where you were hurting and again, I am truly sorry that your own children can show such disrespect and uncaring attitudes towards the woman that loves them more than life itself. You deserve so much more. Hugs GB

I totally relate to all these posts. The heartache I feel from my adult son is excruciating. Off with the DIL's family for the day and I don't get invited. All the years of love and caring and then this. Funny how they can change when they have a wife. A son is a son until he takes him a wife is so true in my situation. HURTS HORRIBLY!! It feels like a death as I feel I have lost my son. Glad Mother's Day is OVER!!! NEXT year, I am going out of town.

Thank you for the replies. I haven't let my sons know how sick I am. They have NO idea how much pain I'm in. The last time I tried to tell one of my sons how sick I was, he told me I was "just being lazy" That stung, so never again will I tell him anything. It is warmer out today & the pain has subsided somewhat. My ears feel like they're plugged up all the time. Anyone else have that problem? It makes my earlobes throb.

gordos4, I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your pain. And I wish your boys would come to their senses.

My younger son (31) called to tell me happy Mother's Day, and then told me he lost a good friend (32) in a freak accident. I was so sad for his mom. Friday before Mother's Day. It's just not fair.

Maybe you could call your boys just to see how they're doing. They'll probably be embarrassed about forgetting. Worth a try...

Gentle hugs.