i can relate compleatly..

Welcome to the group. It breaks my heart to hear all you're dealing with. You are so young to have so much pain and I'd like to give you a big, Motherly hug!

You'll never feel alone with this wonderful group of people. Keep talking, honey.

Hugs,
Cherry

I just joined this group because I feel the same way- nobody understands what people with chronic pain go thru. I can't imagine going thru what I am now at your age (I'm 41). My husband left me 2 years after my accident- part of me is still in shock, part of me is glad the accident happened since he obviously didn't really care about me.

Hi ! I'm so sorry you're hurting and feel alone! That's a horrible feeling. You're so young to have this condition too!!

I've been a chronic painer for many years, and I too have had friends "leave." It does make you wonder what in the world is so wrong with you! LOL But they too will have problems some day - - lets hope THEIR friends treat them better.

I'm glad you found the chronic pain board -- this is much busier than the others. I'm sure you'll find alot of support and information -- the people here are GREAT!

Take care and don't hesitate to post. God bless. Hugs, Lee

For me I think it was more me then my friends who left. I was the one who stopped making the calls and always not going out because I was not feeling well if I know anything about friendship it is a two way street and we as CP people have to keep that line of communication open.

At 20 I think it is more important to have friends then someone like me who is married and in her 40's so please give a bit of effort to keep those friendships going at least the communication with them, they will understand and can be a great help to you.

Keep on those doctors to get you better as much as they can instead of just treating you and controlling the pain. From my experience I dont want you to have to go through this your entire life and maybe because you are so young they can try different things and if you have insurance go to the big medical hospitals that are world renowned to find results to end your pain.

A big problem for me was just not being able to go out and join my friends as much as I would have liked to, or as much as they did. So I've often felt sort of peripheral to the groups of friends I've had.

In my case you really can't see the damage, which is generally a positive. But people also forget, and we have to argue over whether to walk across the city or take a bus. Those arguments get tiresome.

It can help if you can be the one to suggest an activity--rather than wait for my friends to suggest something I can't do, I'll ask if anyone wants to sit by the lake or something. I also make sure I budget walking-time so that I make seeing friends a priority. I haven't solved anything, but I've found a few things like that which help.

Best!

I know we don;'t know eachother personally but please know you are not alone. I am sorry you are going through this at all, let alone at such a young age. I am 46 and feel similarly except I am able to work but I don't go out with friends and do things mostly because at the end of the day I can't really move well. Please keep posting. I have no idea where you live but are there any groups around there for young people dealing with these issues?

Welcome to the group, I'm sure you will makes many friends here. I know what its like to not have friends... mine have dwindled away in the last year since I got hurt. If I didn't have this group I'd feel very alone too. Jump into the conversations and make friends, there's lots of great people here.
big gentle hugs,
Lisa

Hi, I've been sick since i was 21, 29 now, but I also have fibro, osteoarthriities, and degenertion of spine. I know how hard it can be, esp. when u r young and noone expects to be sick at that age. U r not alone!! PM me anytime you want to talk.Hope u can feel better soon. Hugs.

I am a lot older than you and truthfully i couldn't imagine being so young and in so much of a quagmire.

You are not at the end of a path you are at the beginning. First of all........stop hurting yourself!

There are people here that are genuine and true, and will be there for you. Along with others here that relate to your pain, we all suffer. This is a place where you can find people to talk to.

Give it a try. You're wanted!!

David.

My heart goes out to you ...I am so glad that you have found us and know that you are in good company. We all feel isolated due to our aflictions, but together here at DS we can support and encourage one another. It is a hardship you being so young and I wish it were not so, but we are here for you. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. And if you ever want to talk feel free to look me up. Welcome to our awesome group! Hugs, Cathy

I think you will find some friends here, and it might even give you the confidence to find some friends where you live.

I'm so glad you found your way here! It has been a blessing for me.

I just turned 24 and can completely relate. starting at 16 I began having spine surgeries and later on also diagnosed with MS. I also lost a lot of friends bc I was always in pain and couldnt do things with them that they wanted.

What has been great about DS is I can chat with my friends here, get support and advice and let a lot of feelings out here, because honestly a lot of my friends over the years could not handle or understand what I was going through- and I couldnt expect them to either.

Your friends who are meant to be in your life will shine thru all of this, even though they cannot understand the constant chronic pain themselves, I try to find a happy medium and I am sure you will too.

You are def not alone! There are a lot of us dealt a rough hand early on in life, and you will meet fantastic and supportive friends here that you will love just like all of your other friends!

Take care and I am always here if you need!

Bridget :)

I know how you feel I got hurt at 19, thou started mild it has progressed over the years now not mild anymore. It seems to me that every time I told someone I was hurt they either told me there hole life story of how much worce then me they were and how I had nothing to complain about, or they would just say I was to young to be in pain and that was it. I am sorry your stuck in that hell, it's got to be the worce when at the good years of your life your body is all ready failing. I always worry at 29 if I am using a walker how will I be when I get older, I try not to think of it, it's to scary. anyways I am sorry I tend to babble. Welcome to the group I hope you enjoy it and get the support you need...I'll shut up now

Welcome ThreeLegs. So sorry you have to come here. I also have Syringomyelia. When you have a disabling condition you sure find out who your friends are. When you have been left by friends, there is a tendency to distance yourself from everyone (reject them before they can reject you type of thing) so try to be open to new friends and old friends who come back to you.

When you need someone to talk to, just remember that we are here for you. You can cry on our shoulders and we don't mind. You can cuss angrily about your pain and we will listen. We totally understand.

Gentle hugs