Feel free to talk to me anytime, I am also 20 (21 in 9 days) and in pain since I was about 16.

I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I can relate to you in terms of age, albeit no nearly as young. I'm in my mid 30's. I'm supposed to be active and enjoying the times, not stuck on my couch all week long. Anywho, welcome to the group and godspeed. Take care. dl

aw hun so sorry to hear your in pain =( im 22 and have been in chronic pain since I was 15ish...were all here to listen and support you...theres great people here who will listen and offer advice..welcome to the group =) hugs xx

Welcome. We know how you feel. I am so sorry that you are struggling at such a young age. It's hard to have friends, coworkers, family members know how we feel when they possibly can't? They get the flu and stay home-we go to work, college, etc because we have to! If we stayed home every day we felt bad, we'd never leave the house.

You have many friends here-where else can you meet all these people in one day replying to you and cheering you on?

Hope you have better days ahead.

I'm so very sorry for all of you that are so young & suffering. Life is not fair at times. There seems to be a few others here that are around your age. Reach out & take them up on their offer to talk. Everyone needs someone. We are all here but I know its nice to have someone closer to your own age, as I have 2 daughters.

Perhaps I'm wrong but I think most of us have felt the lose of relationships do to our pain, that hurts at any age. I'm blessed as my BF understands & we have been friends since we were children, we are in our 40s now. My family on the other hand have not stood by my side. That hurts & I do believe we learn who really cares.

True friends will stand by you & even when your not a CPer that is hard to find. This is a wonderful group, I think you'll find understanding here & friends of all ages.
God bless, Sammy

so sorry life is so tuff at such a young age i hope u find some releif and hope healing hugs

I can relate. At 30, it is hard to be nearly homebound and unable to work or go out with friends. Also, I tend to feel guilty when asking them to come over all the time instead of going out, and then I start to isolate and not contact them. But I'm learning to get over that. I'm also learning that the friends who are worth hanging out with are the ones who stick with you when you are sick or depressed. I hope you can make some new friends here who understand -- as you can see, a lot of us feel similarly. It takes strength to come and share your story and to fight the impulse to isolate, so congrats. :)

Hello and welcome. I read you profile and your cane does sound a bit awesome. I am 20 and have a rare muscle disease, but it sounds like your many illness are much worse than me. When my disease kicked in I lost alot of friends and I did not have the energy for a social life. Now I am doing better, but still not to many friends. I am thankful for the few I do have. they are helpful and know about my new limitations. I hope that you can stay positive as much as possible even though life can be so discouraging some times. Good Luck!

"Freak or mutant"... Nope, no one here will think that of ya. In here you will find tons of friends you've never met! I've learned many moons ago, a "true friend" will stick with you warts, pain or troubles and all.

49 now, but due to crashing a helicopter, been in the pain mode since I was 21. Not fun, but you truly will know how your friends are. Have you looked around your town/city to see if there is a chronic pain support group or community center and can connect with?

When I lived in upper state New York I joined a support group and it was wonderful and life changing for the better. My whole frame of mind changed for the better, pain and all! About to have surgery #7, and I am still a pretty happy person over all. Welcome to the group!!! *HUGZ*

Hi Three, i am so sorry that you have so much pain and you are so young. Come here and talk, vent, or when you are just lonely. Welcome to this group.

I understand how you feel. I also felt quite abandoned by my very active friends when my pain problems started. But over time, I made new friends to go with my new lifestyle (more sedentary) and the really good friends came through and stayed with me. The hole always gets filled up.. it just takes time. As you can see, you actually made a whole bunch of new friends here.. didn't take long. I hope you feel better soon.

Hi and welcome - glad you found us!

i am so sorry, it must be awful. I don't think I am supposed to say this but at our lonliest we are not alone. God is right there with us if we look.

I got pregnent with my 2nd child, One Saturday I felt really weird too weird to ignore so I called the Dr (first time ever called a doctor on off hours.)

He said come in Monday morning there is a litle something I see in the ultrasound. Sunday my husbands' family comes to visit. I tried to be a gracious host but was I glad when they left. I sat on the couch. Blood started pouring out of me like you have never seen. I got to the hospital all night long I begged and bawled to know if my baby was ok, there were a lot of nurses, they pretended not to hear me/ Writing this gives me the creeps. One nurse was brave and sweet enough to talk to me, it at least gave me hope that maybe our girl was still alive..

Well anyway baby was still alive but we (both were nowhere out of danger).) I had to have complete bed rest I believe on my back and when I started to bleed I had to go back to hospital. I could not even hug my sweet one and a half year son or help him (he wanted to get potty trained.)

I laid there alone, tv off, tv bugged me and just prayed and prayed and prayed he'd save her. My dear friends prayed too and I think I was on a lot of prayer chains. Laying there alone was not only lonely I was scared out of my wits I'd hemorage again. But God was there with me it just took me awhile to figure that out,

We made it. The dr. admitted he did not think it was going to have a good ending (one can say that when its over) We were healed I have the most specal sweet creative giving young woman in this house, We were both sick oddly enough, my guess is I gave her lyme in utero. but we got treated off and on and she is doing I hope remarkable. I think she is ok. I, did not do as well i have ms or fibro or non-seronegative rhematoid arthris. Lol spin the ball and see your diagnosis.

You are so young and pretty and I am going to pray for a total complete healing for you. I do not care if I get kicked off (not supposed to talk about God unless it's a spiritual group.) I am praying for a total complete healing and sweetie you are not alone. When I was at my lowest scared bedridden I felt something, something nice something comforting. It was the Holy spirit sent to help me get through this. I just had to look a little.

I bet it would have helped me to have this site when I was layin in bed wondering if I was going to hemorage any minute and lose my girl.
Please excuse the spelling errors I used to be top of the class, really no lie Lol. Seriously I was a good student and things came easy to me, well not anymore, theres some brain malfuntioning a shrink said I was doomed. I have to giggle at that, wanted to cry then but now it seems hilarious. Things will get better and you are very very loved. Lisa

Hi,

I can relate to almost everything you said, I have had people leave me too and there right here In my home town. I am working on a few things to hopefully help...
If you wanna chat Im shure there is a place hear we can.

nikki