It's too bad crying and screaming doesn't work for you. Maybe you could just cry, screaming might exhaust you more than crying. I think I remember there is something in tears that let's stress get out of your body.

Yeah, I feel you. I know what you mean about wanting to release all of that, but not feeling up to doing the crying and screaming that it would take to get those feelings out. I just had a death in my family and I found myself reluctant to cry at first because I was just too exhausted to do it. But later, after I had slept some, I was able to cry a bit. Another thing I do sometimes is to imagine myself in a safe place and imagine myself crying, if I can't physically do it due to fatigue. Something you could try, as well, is to write a story or a poem about how you are feeling. Drawing a picture works too or even making a scrapbook about the pain you feel. I know all of that sounds pretty exhausting too. So, only take the suggestions that seem to fit you. I know it's frustrating to suffer this way and not have very many empathic witnesses to your pain, but we are here for you. We'll listen and feel it along with you. Be blessed.

Crying is a great way for me to release stress. I will also talk to myself like I'm a little girl that is in need of comfort. I tell that little girl that everything is all right.

I recently read about a technique to release stress that seemed to work. You might want to try it if you have the energy. Write down all your most negative, dark feelings. Write for at least 15 minutes (truthfully, I cheated and wrote for a shorter time.) After you are done writing, throw away that piece of paper. I thought it was crazy, but after doing this once or twice a day for a couple of days, I actually felt lighter of spirit. Good luck luna.
hugs Renee

Not sure if this will help, but maybe consider not putting too much pressure on yourself to release it all at once. I've noticed that if I put pressure on myself (or my spouse) to 'get it all out' and have some kind of cathartic experience then I end up really tense and that expectation becomes part of the problem. Sometimes just being patient and kind to myself allows it to release naturally and in a way my body can handle.

I sometimes put the upset me on a cushion and imagine it's a small upset child and then talk to it kindly and lovingly and maybe even cuddle the cushion. I've found it very powerful, but gentle at the same time.

It's a different approach and might be less exhausting. Big hugs :-)

I'm not sure if this has already been suggested because my foggy brain and low energy can't read all the other suggestions.

My suggestion that works for me is to write a journal entry. I vent frequently in my journal entries here at Daily Strength. According to counselors and therapist writing is beneficial. I cry while I am writing. I think the crying is releasing some surplus chemicals from my system, but it does also zap some of my energy.

Poor sweetheart~~~ I really understand what you mean about worrying about expending energy crying or screaming. You've gotten some GREAT recommendations/suggestions from everyone so I won't be redundant. I so wish we could all materialize into a room where we could all comfort each other, but since we can't, this is the next best thing. I've tried almost all of the above things and they ARE helpful. You'll need to just try whatever seems to work for you. Try a few different things. Try the thing that you think WON'T work. You may be surprised. Sending comforting wishes to you and hopes for freedom from the sadness and frustration you are living with. We are all here for you.

Oh, I hear you all!
I write, as in journaling. I use a large legal pad and a gel pen that is comfortable and just let it all out. Then I throw it away the next day. Sometimes it gets so messy I'd never be able to read it again but the minute that pen gets in my hand my emotions pour out through it. On days I can't write, I use dragon software and talk like I was talking to a best friend or just the universe. Then, again, later I delete. I don't want people finding them later and feeling upset about how I was feeling at that moment because it probably passed. And, yes, of course I cry. I'm not much of a screamer.
If I'm not up to any of that at all, then I do muscle releases. It involves tighting up each major muscle from toes to neck, holding 10 seconds and then letting it go. It releases lactic acid. Came upon it when I used to have panic attacks. Really helped....
Hope today is a good day!

Nina, what's Dragon software like? I can barely type and really miss writing...is it easy to use? Thanks :-)

Essentially you load it up, and using a headset you talk to the program and it learns your voice and cadence. Then you can use it to type emails, word docs, etc.
I'm not as talented as some with the computer, so I generally "type" up my emails and things on a word document and copy/paste when I am done so I can check it out first or save it if I am too tired to finish.
It's about $55 on Amazon, disc or download. The "home" edition should do everything you need. I have an earlier one but it looks like this one can even help you surf the web. time to upgrade :) On the same page in the "frequently bought together" area is a good headset to use if you don't have one already. http://smile.amazon.com/Dragon-NaturallySpeaking-Home-13-0-English/dp/B00LX4BZAQ/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1429698936&sr=8-3&keywords=dragon+naturally+speaking+13+premium

thanks Nina. I tried a free one on google chrome last night and the results were hilarious. Phrases like 'I do not have an avocado' appeared frequently. Worth trying if you want a giggle.

When anxious or stressed...lie down, hand on tummy. Breathe in through nose for count of 4 ( feel tummy extend) hold for 7 and out for 8 through mouth. Repeat until you feel better. Hope it helps xx

Lupin, Nina -- My box version of Dragon Home v12 came with a headset/microphone... fyi