You could go for the ceremony and then go home. There is no reason you have to stay for dancing. By that point nobody will care if you're there or not because everybody will have too much to drink to notice.

Most receptions are paid by the head so if you could stay for the dinner that would be nice.

I'm sorry the people around you are putting so much pressure on you to go. They can't possibly get it and you should discount what they think.

You should do what you want to do and feel comfortable with. Getting all worried about it will stress you out to the point of not being able to go.

I'm in a similar situation in that my granddaughter's birthday party is tomorrow at Chuckie cheese, the loudest place on earth. I don't make up my mind on what to do until the morning of the event because I may be flat on my backside today but I never know what tomorrow will bring...

I do think if you want a new friend in your life it would be best to start off on the right foot and be honest about your illness. Otherwise the person won't last long as a friend when you continue to cancel on her without explanation.

Good luck and I hope you are able to go out and enjoy yourself.

I think that you should do what you want to do. If she is really interested then she will understand and respect your decision.

I also think that you should be honest about your condition too.
It is better to tell her in the beginning and then she will know the truth.
If she really likes you and really cares and wants to spend time with you then she will be accepting. It is better to know sooner rather than later. If she cannot accept your illness then that is her choice. It is not your fault. Everyone is different and some people cannot deal with things like that. It is not personal believe it or not. It is just who they are.

If you're looking online for dates anyway, why not lead with the cfs? It could mean less disappointment.

If that idea freaks you out, try it out on one website that has a lot of people. Then if it doesn't work out you can take it off your profile.

You might want to make it very simple since a lot of people don't know what cfs is. Maybe just say "cfs, which means I have less energy than othe people."

Then you could say that you are open to dating someone who also has fatigue, or is simply willing to accept yours.

Of course this means fewer responses. But the responses you do get ought to be more valuable. You won't be stressing about if they will accept you because they already did.

If you try this out, come back and say how it goes. Online you have the potential of meeting people who also have fatigue since you are reaching so many more people than if you go to a public place in person.

Gabriel, did you make it to the wedding?

I'm sorry to say that I missed the B-day party. Luckily, I already gave her the present.

I missed the wedding and I regret it. I think I would have had a great time. But I was scared. I was not feeling well but today the day of the wedding I felt fine. I could have gone. Maybe I should start being less careful with my cfs. And do more. I am pretty amazed at what I have been able to do lately. I still feel sick often. But I am doing a lot more. My old sick self did not let me go to the wedding. I was too scared. But I need something like that so badly. I need to dance and enjoy people. It has been so long. I am sad I got scared and did not go to the wedding. Maybe I am wrong but today I feel I could have made it and would have had a good time. I am so grateful that I can do more now. I dont know how long this will last. I hope I am getting better.

Sorry to hear that. I know for sure I couldn't make the party. I've been crashy all week.

Perhaps you can catch up to her when she is back from the honeymoon.

Hey there Gabriel don't beat yourself up about the wedding.Naturally you were fearful as your fear was based on past experiences when you were really ill and you were unable to socialise.It makes a lot of sense.How could you know whether or not you would be well enough to go on the day.Your fear at the time was commiting and then not being able to honour that commitment on the day thus disappointing both your friend and yourself. So you have not made a mistake at all.I have been in this situation myself and have no social life.I even missed my own fathers funeral because I was so severely crashed . I've had to forgive myself for that.So please dear Gabriel you can forgive yourself for missing the wedding you couldnt have known how you would be on the day.You have made no mistake

You are right. I did not make a mistake. I felt well yesterday but I am feeling bad again today. It is hard to predict how I am going to feel. It depends a lot on how well I sleep and I am having lots of problems with my sleep. If I could sleep normally every night I would be in much better shape. Today I am really tired. I cant even speak on the phone. I will try to relax and enjoy being alone. Thank you so much for all your words of support. It means a lot to me. All this stuff about the wedding would be trivial if I did not feel so lonely. But this is a lonely illness. I have to accept that. Your words make me feel I am not alone. thank you.