Cerebral Palsy Support Group
Cerebral palsy or CP is the most common childhood physical disability. It is a permanent physical condition that affects movement. There is no cure for cerebral palsy, but various forms of therapy can help a person with the disorder to function more effectively. If you or a loved one has cerebral palsy, join the group to share your experience or get advice from others.
My husband has mild CP. I don't have any problems with some of his physical limitations, but the mental part where he rather have me think for him instead of trying to figure things out for himself is really started to take its toll. He always wants me to go with him to doctor's appts. and damn near everywhere. He said it's because he has a hard time expressing himself at times. I understand that, however when he ask me questions, he can do what I do...google it. Instead he'd rather have me do it all. Also, I don't mind helping out but he can be mean and hateful and sometimes abusive. That turns me off totally when he needs help. He constantly thinks it's easy being with someone who has not one disability but two. I try to be as loving as I can, but his constantly thinking I'm a robot with no feelings and I should never get tired is really going to get him kicked out of the house. I'm sick of it! He has all this resentment when I try to help him with reading, writing etc...he resents me for being knowledgeable and having to be the one to help him. He feels that me having to help him, means I'm in charge. I NEVER try to make him feel bad or emasculate him....NEVER. I don't know how much more of this I can take. I'm giving him until January....if nothing changes, he's out.
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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So voc rehab finally got in touch with me...it took like six months finally. The voc rehab person that they assigned to me is a lawyer and extremely knowledgable on disability law and he seems to know a great deal about how to get people placed in jobs and how to make their resumes pass ATS. I was really surprised at how articulate and energetic he is. I guess my question is how much I...
Stuff I just refuse help.
Like, on a musical instrument. (I play guitar) and something goes wrong with it. I think it is so easy that
I can fix it myself, I don't want to admit I can't do it.
So, I think it's about pride of knowing
Or thinking we can do it.
So, maybe your husband needs something
Like a musical instrument to express
Himself. And also there seems to be a lot of psychology on valved cp, maybe he needs to see a psychologist.
Remember that almost all CP'ers experience some level of discomfort on a daily basis, imagine having a "charlie horse" in your leg that stays with you for the rest of your life - if you are having a bad week it is not only physically exhausting but mentally as well. Many days of the week I have to concentrate to "mentally push through the pain" just to get through a workday, just from the week of discomfort I am ready to physically an mentally collapse by Friday night.
None of this is an excuse for his behavior. Beside psychotherapy and possibly medication, you should definitely encourage him to exercise as often as possible - exercising releases happy hormones to the brain.