thank you for starting this thread. very informative

The best place I found was Families and Friends of Addicts. Possibly someone could start a group of Families and Friends of Gamblers?

I would be very interested in a support group for Spouses of Gamblers! How do we start this group?

Great post, Thank You

For our home we both were gamblers I have stopped completely but he still wants to go to Vegas. He likes craps so thank goodness it is only on Vegas. We both have wasted thousands of dollars. We both have lied and did things for money. I am soo happy to be free from this horrible disease because of the 2 I was the worst. I would sneak off to Indian reservations down the street from my house. I lied, borrowed, and stolen. Any holiday or long weekend we were off to Vegas with our children. Our kids have been so much they recognize hotels. I am soo ashamed of my behavior and the damage I caused. I see he isn't over his addictions he feels since he doesn't gamble everyday or online and only in. Vegas he doesn't have a problem. But I have seen how he is at that table he would spend hours playing getting mean when I come up to him. I know of the thousands wasted and the bills neglected from a bad trip to Vegas. For him he always had a backup his father willed him property so he would take the rent money and go gamble in Vegas but overtime those trips caught up with us and now he is about to lose all 5 properties. We are in trouble with the IRS and almost lost our house. I finally woke up one day after a gambling trip and said enough is enough and quit.

Thank you deedra30 for being so honest with us. I would think it would be hard having your husband still gamble when you have quit. How long have you been gamble free? Proud of what you decided and how you are sticking to it.

It has been about 3 months but the time doesn't matter something in me has changed I can't explain it. I know I helped keep our addictions going because honestly if I had of said no to Vegas at any time we wouldn't go. I believe because I wasn't ready to quit I just wasn't ready. He is more compulsive in Vegas so if he doesn't go he doesn't gamble. But when he goes he just spends spends spends. It was me that was a true gambler I would play lotto buy scratchers go to casinos all the time. I would lie and say I was at the Dr and spend hours going from casino to casino. So when I read these stories I feel sad like look at the damage I caused.

Hi there. I am a newbie here but has been an expert Denial-queen to my husband's CG. I knew about his gambling since day 1 I met him online. He stopped for what he told me, enough for me to believe, he flew from US to overseas and spend time with me and my son (from my ex), then petitioned us to come here- all expenses paid by him! ; got married and lived in a tiny room at his friends. 1 month past, he was back to gambling with a lot of lying, I have no one to run and talk to with a 6-year old by my side, very helpless- thinking what in the hell I dragged an innocent child to this! It came to a point even our loaned immigration fees was spent in gambling.

Years past, i strived hard to get a good-paying job, he was then laid-off and until now does not have a decent job. He sometimes get hired but quits as he is convinced that "other" employees take advantage of him. I've been the sole money-maker for the last 8 years. The only wise decision I made was to have an individual bank account and establish a good credit. my husband's money goes straight to casino, 95% of the time. I even pay for his gas to go to work, insurance, etc.. Why do I have to do this??? Because he makes me feel so little and digs into my conscience that I owe him the American dream. I fought and I lied to my family and son what I've been going through to save this man who has a great heart, been through a lot- from being homeless to supporting his brothers education that he forgot his own.

Now, I am already in the position where I have to give him tough love. He spoke to me few days ago saying he recently acquired individual loan he couldnt even pay due to very high interest. He wanted me to get a loan and pay his off since I can get better deals. I almost did! But when I asked what assurance i get to make sure he's not doing it again?? NO RESPONSE!!

Currently, Im thinking to file for a divorce. I dnt know if it's right but I just couldnt deal with it anymore. I already kept quiet for the longest time, always thinking about him - his safety everytime he is depressed and sleeps in his car. But i guess its time to move on without him. I learned and finally realized it's not my fault and definitely not owe him anything.

I pray for him all the time, he also have lost faith in God, actually sometimes cusses at Him which irritates me so much. I pray, WE, family and spouses of gamblers may have the strongest faith, wisdom and physical strength to fight for ourselves, thank u DS for giving us our space in this website and share our stories.

wow. thank you so much, a lot of good advice and some id never even thought of even after going to gamanon. Blessings to you and your son!