Society, religion and community dictated monogamy or other practices. it depends on where you live, who is in your community, what you learned as religion from your family from the moment you were born.

*dusting off my Sociology textbooks*

Meh...the evolution of mores are thwarted by the changes times and the skewed view of what morals are in today's society which do not resemble the era when I was born. There are no white picket fences. There is virutal realities and acceptance of lifestyles that once were shunned.

I do not think human beings, by pure their pure biological nature, are predisposed to monogamy. Monogamy is actually a relatively new occurrence in the course of human history.

I could go for a Poly relationship.

ew

One of the things I enjoy most in a relationship is the journey of getting to know someone in depth and sharing with that 1 person. I'm just not wired to be with more than 1 person at a time.

Ok....the more sexual partners you have, the more risk you have of catching something. With all the icky stuff out there it is plain out dangerous and nasty.

I would never do it. I don't share nice either when it comes to my love. I am a one woman man and I would never be with a woman who wanted more than just me.

the natural instinct of the female is to select one male [deemed the 'fittest'] and mate exclusively with him thus insuring the future of herself and her offspring (the 'species').

the natural instinct of the male is to mate with as many females as possible thus insuring the future of his bloodline by producing as many offspring as possible (again- the 'species')

males must go against their natural instincts in order to be monogamous.

So, why be monogamous?

Love

So Heave, what you are saying is that we should all just abstain because sex is too dangerous?

So we should also stop breathing because the air is polluted and it will kill us?

Or stop driving because it is inherently dangerous?

I guess it comes down to this- are we more than animals? I'd like to think we are more than just the sum of our parts.

Also- I value the emotional intimacy that comes from sex. I think that would be nearly non-existent for me in a non-monogamous relationship. If it was just sex with no intimacy- why bother? bob is quicker and less messy lol

I don't know very many men nor women that could truly have more than one mate. Women and men get caught up and get jealous. I don't believe that some of the people here saying that they could, would be able to if faced with the situation. I don't buy it.
Many of us are here because we could not share. I divorced two husbands over it and others here did too. Infidelity is a huge reason that many here have divorced. If I could have shared I would have stayed married to my 1st one.. Kimmee

Polyandry could be an option.....

Lynne

anybody watch Big Love on HBO?

I used to for entertainment value...and the hot scenes....*shoot me, I'm single*

NOT DEAD YET said it all.....men aren't wired to be monogamous. I would never be with more than one person. Would never cheat in a committed relationship.

Not ready to date, but can't see myself dating more than one person at a time.