Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Sometimes I think that i'm doing ok, but these only last a few hours at a time. Usually when i'm surrounded by people or when I'm talking to friends.
I don't know how i'm supposed to cope with this, People tell me that It's like I have split personality, they have told me that sometimes I am reasonable to talk with, and other times they get worried because I start to scare them with my talk.
my ex wrote me an email back finally, she wrote this:
"Hi Mark
I have been reading everything you've written, but since you never gave me any space, and kept calling and writing all the time, in the end I just had to take my own space, and not answer you. I didn't do it to be mean or because I don't care about you anymore, it was purely for my own sake.
I'm glad to hear that you're making progress, and trying to expand your friend circle. It'll be good for you, and I think you won't have any trouble with it -you were always good with people, even if you didn't consider them friends or even like them.
I'm sorry things ended like this, and despite your e-mail, I'm not sure if you really understand why I broke up with you. Still, I appreciate what you wrote. And I want you to know that, whatever you might think, I never wanted to hurt you. I care a lot about you and I want you to be happy. You are still one of the best people I know.
Maybe one day we can be friends and talk without being hurt or sad. I know you need time, but I need some time as well.
Until then, good luck with your jobs and clubs. I know you'll do well."
I don't know what to think. Is there any chance this is a good sign? Is there any chance that possibly I can get her back in the future? Should i wait for her to be ready to accept that we were great together?
I don't want to accept a future without her in it, how am I supposed to survive this nightmare?
Is it even possible to get your ex back?
I'm sorry for this rant, I just don't know any way to get through this period.
I don't know how i'm supposed to cope with this, People tell me that It's like I have split personality, they have told me that sometimes I am reasonable to talk with, and other times they get worried because I start to scare them with my talk.
my ex wrote me an email back finally, she wrote this:
"Hi Mark
I have been reading everything you've written, but since you never gave me any space, and kept calling and writing all the time, in the end I just had to take my own space, and not answer you. I didn't do it to be mean or because I don't care about you anymore, it was purely for my own sake.
I'm glad to hear that you're making progress, and trying to expand your friend circle. It'll be good for you, and I think you won't have any trouble with it -you were always good with people, even if you didn't consider them friends or even like them.
I'm sorry things ended like this, and despite your e-mail, I'm not sure if you really understand why I broke up with you. Still, I appreciate what you wrote. And I want you to know that, whatever you might think, I never wanted to hurt you. I care a lot about you and I want you to be happy. You are still one of the best people I know.
Maybe one day we can be friends and talk without being hurt or sad. I know you need time, but I need some time as well.
Until then, good luck with your jobs and clubs. I know you'll do well."
I don't know what to think. Is there any chance this is a good sign? Is there any chance that possibly I can get her back in the future? Should i wait for her to be ready to accept that we were great together?
I don't want to accept a future without her in it, how am I supposed to survive this nightmare?
Is it even possible to get your ex back?
I'm sorry for this rant, I just don't know any way to get through this period.
All the replies above are true and I need to take that same message in aswell
She has moved on
and we have not
and we need to
I want to say that there are some positives coming out of this. I have always thought about going on antidepressants but never did (lots of reasons). Now that i feel backed against a wall, i have finally got them, and i have diazepam for my anxiety. I have also joined some clubs down here to make friends and of course this support group/site. I would never have tried to help myself so much if i wasn't pushed this far down.
I hope that now, in time I can get myself back together. I have also received some slightly annoying news about this job i was supposed to be getting, but i just took some diazepam and i am not feeling it.
Yes i am very sad that things turned out this way, i am sad that she will not see how much i'm trying to help myself now, and she will not know how pushed against the wall i have bee.
People told me that when we got together, i was the one that settled for her. Look where i am now. As MSgtD rightly noted. Where the hell is that guy now.
I will aim for even higher than that guy, since now i am finally on the medication i should have been on this whole time.
Much love people
You have your whole life ahead of you, or ya don't, so make today count.
When I was in your shoes, I decided that I was just going to keep deploying with my unit wherever they would send me, just to see and do new things. That was the plan. Didn't quite work out that way, since I met someone, and it ended up working out a million times better. BUT, there was A LOT of slog I had to go through to get here.
Some apologies, but never regrets, for I feel everything, both the "good" and "bad" I did in my lifetime led to these moments, which have never been better.
I know hard it is and hope you find peace soon