You just have to not give a shit. *voila*

people set us up when we first meet them and don't realize it. for example, my ex:

1. had fibromyalgia
2. considered herself the sensitive type
3. suffered from depression
4. Had few domestic skills
5. Did not have any money saved

So, that set me up as the hero. But, a guy can't be a hero. I am just a guy. If a woman expects preferential treatment, then, it comes at a big price to a guy.

So, from now on I avoid women who:

1. Claim to be sensitive
2. Have fibromyalgia or depression
3. Have no money saved
4. Does not keep a well-run household

Rman...I hear what you're saying. STBX was extremely financially irresponsible...filing for bankruptcy and than racking up debt all before I met her....I ignored that red flag...I made excuses....I "loved" her. During our marriage she was able to reel in her spending...especially since we now have kids and her spending will now affect our girls. Idk....maybe that's why she left me....

LAC....you remind me of my stbx...I had to do a double take....plus I know you like the Yankees and I was like....timeout....

ruh-row

Wow faithful, is there an application that is presented on the first date?

That along with a lie-detector.

Do you also present them with a resume of your high-points, and weaknesses? If either do in fact exist.

I am bringing a lawyer to my next date.

I'm bringing Judge Judy.

A lie detector might have helped me....I remember my parents were in the middle of their divorce so naturally in came into conversation with the stbx. "Oh no...I don't believe in divorce". See the lie detector would have buzzed or whatever....I probably would have ignored it and made an excuse anyways so maybe it wouldn't have helped..

I would caution against equating being co-dependent in a relationship with a user

as being a co-dependent.

If you have not been a co-dependent your whole life, that is, if you did not accept the role at a very young age, and you've had other relationships in which you were not co-dependent, then there is no reason to believe you would necessarily be co-dependent in your next relationship.

TD, I really have no interest in dating now. I'm in that bitter phase. lol

Rdude...go to the library...get "Codependant No More" by Melody Beattie

It will sum it all up, about you and probably your wife.

Here we go again Faithful, with the no fibro..blah blah blah. Oh, and women want to be Cinderella??? Wow.

Rman...it does sound like codependency. Why so against therapy? If you found a good one, i think you could benefit. I mean it couldn't hurt could it?

I can't read.

And no therapy because I don't like people looking at me.