Regardless if this person is your exhusband or exboyfriend, he is your ex for a reason.
With that being said, if BOTH parties are in agreement to do whatever it takes to reconcile the relationship (Couples counseling, etc.) I don't think it is an impossibility.

If both parties are not in agreement, I would leave well enough alone.

right now he is still saying we will not get back together, but this is the like third time we have broken up in 13-14 yrs of being together. I'm still wanting and wishing we will get back together, but I really think GOD is working on me to get myself together. He wanted to have something with me, and I had a nerve to tell him he need to be giving me money. Now I'm not working just in school for my bachelors, but my rent is not full rent therefore, I felt like he should be greatful for not paying full rent, and he have a good job, so I thought I was pulling my weight because of the rent was low, but I guess everyone needs help, I really miss him, and when he came by yesterday, I did good and didnt' mention us being back together. Any suggestions on how to play this situation? I can't give up on us yet

If the reasons that you separated before are the same reasons that you brokeup this time, you may not have much of a chance at reconcilliation. He may feel that trying to solve your problems are like banging his head on a wall. He just can't get anywhere, and at some point you just have to stop.

One thing that we all have in common around here is hindsight. If you get another chance, I hope you learned your lesson this time.

it is ironic, but the best way to reunite is to show that you don't really need them. so get busy and do those things that prove that you can be independent. the more independent a woman is, the more attractive that she is to a man. good luck.

see what I mean Faithfull, he just left, and guess what I did stupid, I asked him for a couple of dollars, really just to see how broke he is, I didnt need a dime, and of course he said he didnt have nothing, and I really believe him. if he had it he would have given it to me. I don't know why I even said nothing to him, trying to stay cordial and not have hatred for him, because I do love him so much, but I can get out of hand and be mean to him, but I don't. I didnt play that well at all lol

Well, it sounds like you have to do something new for money now anyway, right? Which is what he asked you to do.

Don't play games with him, like asking for money, if you don't need it.

Go on with your life, and let things take their course. Begging and promising changes really aren't the best way to get him back, so don't go there. Show him changes. But change for you, not for him. If you know what I mean.

This isn't the first time you've broken up during your 13-14 years together- maybe he's finally had enough of things not really changing and getting better? You want him back, you've gotten back together before so probably part of you is thinking it will happen again. Not to be mean but you don't really sound very grown up or self sufficient- when you say you felt he should be grateful for not having to pay full rent- well it sounds like you just expect this guy to take care of you- like it's his duty. I can only imagine how he feels- Used maybe?

Lianna, u might be right, maybe it's so hard for me to believe this, and believe me I have done for myself and worked and had pretty good jobs, but the last like three years, I havn't but been in school. He has actually said that too, damn, now I got to think about that. not really I get to get on my job, because I swear, I will never fell this way again.

Sometimes a break up working on just you is needed. We had issues cause I didn't work but in our situation we had small kids and everytime I worked it cost more than I made. Once the first two were in school I did work ft and have done so for almost 4 years but it does strain the relationship when only one brings in money. We broke up over finances still my choice and are now seeing if it will work. But he sees me raise our 3 kids on my own he helps but they live with me and sees I have not fell on my face!

You are not ready to give up, until you are ready to give up.