You stay alone until your head is screwed on straight. Then you enter dating hell, and you wish you had just stayed alone. Eventually you get ok with being alone, because it's easier than trying to figure out the opposite sex.

I stayed single until I felt I was ready to mingle. But that was/is me. There are many who can enter in to casual relationships with another that is ok in the same kind of relationship. All physical nothing emotional. So i guess it is what suits you; just make sure that she is really on the same page as you. When one is not ready for a relationship or more then just a casual thing and the other person is wanting more, it can only lead to a HoT mess and a broken heart for someone.

take care and good luck

my thinking is, if being alone or lonely, bored or "empty" is too difficult to tolerate, then there is something really valuable there to learn about yourself

Craigslist, Plenty of Fish, Zoosh, any dating site.

you go to therapy, rebuild your life by staying busy and doing things you are interested in, and time will pass and you will feel better. and you may even make some friends along the way, which helps with feeling lonely. i still feel like ass most of the time, but i can still go to work and have fellowship with my coworkers and other students. know what i mean? that connection helps. focus on your interests and your life right now. it will all fall into place. and you will be so busy you wont even realize it! :)

Nice site.

I had guys ask me out right after they new I was single again. I told them I was just chillin for the time being as much as I was lonely it would not have been fair to them to use them for company as I was not ready for anything more.

Hook up with some nut job, fuck her, maybe even knock her up and start this shit all over again.

I have a friend who has another friend and she charges $200.

totalchaotic has a good point. Dating sucks and you better have a strong heart and clear mind for it. I can assure you if you start something with someone with feelings of loneliness deep in your gut, and they blow you off.... your head will spin worse than it is now.

When you feel stronger just start hanging out with more people from both sexes. Don't look too hard, just let stuff come to you by being out there.

This is advice directed at myself too, something I need to do

Well Totallych I think pretty much sums it up. This town has a black cloud over it and everybody is very anti social. I have my own business so co workers are out. Since I left the ex I dont really have any body to hang with. When I go to the Gym I try and strike up a conversatjoin with other guys but they will answer your question or bull shit for two seconds about different plates or equipment then move on. Or they go the head sets on and tune everbody out. You meet sombody cool you ask if they want to meet for coffee and they think right a way your a homo and you might put your hand on there leg or some weird shit. So as far as social life thats a zero. :{

Wow, #9 - very harsh advice. Kinda of disgusting actually.

Well, I'm not a "guy" but maybe you could do some of those "meetups" and develop some friendships with woman that are interested in the same things. Don't feel like you have to let them know how messed up you are feeling. Maybe they are in the same place.

So the porn suggestion and the hooker was okay, but I'm disgusting? You don't appear to care for me. Thats fine, but lose the passive aggressive little digs and put me on ignore.

Cuda- youve brought up your isolation in your um...previous existence. My suggestion was a far toss in left field into what unfortunately can happen to those that are lonely and just want company. You can easily just end up in a far worse situation.

Truly you would be better off accepting this short term loneliness, do some soul searching, personal growth and when you are in a better place, finding a suitable partner that will compliment your life.

It's hard. The best things in life are never handed to us on a platter. We have to fight and earn them.

Who's arguing? People post, I say things, people respond.

But this post is not about me, and I won't make it such.

Cuda, think hard. You just want some, hit happy hour and buy someone a couple of drinks, problem solved. You want depth? Exercise patience.