Personally I'd do without sex until you can give and take it without baggage. I always thought it was more important to have company than sex though. I'm not into one night stands or prostitutes. It's not really worth the consequences that sometimes follow. If the gym isn't working out to meet people try something else. Maybe there's a group that does something you enjoy that you could join? I was thinking of joining a hiking club. I've found myself at the dog park quite a bit too. If you need to release... um stress, I'm sure you know how to do that. It may be more important just to reconnect with the world at this stage.

Wishing you good things!

When I need a woman I just suck it up or I cry. And then I put on some sad music and cry some more. Try Tom Waits "House where nobody lives" And then I try to think about moving out on my own, having my driver's license, and dating again.

I dont go to the gym to meet people like I said nobody shoots the shit anymore they go in put on the phones tune you out and do there own shit! I just go there to lift. I havent been there enough lately with this crap in my life going on. Body sure goes to hell quick. It would just be nice to chill with a woman with no BS no expectations you know? Just a freind to be there for you and me for her. I dont want to date no expectations of sex or any other requirements. I dont want any relationshipl I dont want any shit from anybody. Just sombody easy going and no freekin drama queen! Yeah , Yeah I know exactly you guys are going to say ! Damn dude what freekin plantet are you from? But hell if you going to dream, dream big! Its just my thoughts on the subject I dont expect anything and just want the same in return. I tried lets meet up and there is not a chapter here. Go figure guess I could drive 1000 miles to the nearest location to find a meet up. hahahahaha. I told ya this be a shit hole! You guys are alright though your trying to give me some sound advice. I am wacked out the best advice to get is from other wacked out peoplegoing thorough the same wacked out shit I am going through! .hahahahahha

I wasn't thinking "what planet are you on?" I was thinking, yeah that sounds good. Just a friend you can trust and who is easy to talk to and fun to hang out with. It's not impossible. I was just suggesting you find things to do where you're more likely to meet said person. She's out there. It's not all that rare :)

Two things
A) Being on here lets you know that you aren't alone, that you aren't crazy, that you haven't gone off the deep end. It's important to know that what you are going through is normal.
B) I love the company of women, some of the best friends I've ever had were women, not with the expectation of sex or any of that, just friends. Women are fantastic and wonderful and really, just the light of the world in my opinion. And someday one will be the light of my world, and I will be the light of hers.

Cudman, I so relate to ur feelings of loneliness and frustration.I have been to the dating scene and it soooooooo SUCKS,SUCKS

Hi Cudaman,

I also deal with the "I would like someone" issue (dealing with it now--it sucks), but I also know that until I'm really ready to date again, I'm going to sit it out. It's not fair to the guy I may date if my head isn't in the right place, and it isn't fair to me either.

Do your homework--heal yourself first. It's not fair to some really nice woman who may develop feelings for you and then get hurt in the process because you're really not ready to date.

Try meetup.com if you want to just find some friends to hang out with. It's not a dating site, but a place to connect with people who share common interests. Volunteering is also a good way to meet people.

I get the loneliness thing--many of us deal with it daily, but we also realize that jumping into relationships without being ready can be a mistake too. I did this after my divorce, made huge mistakes and now am taking the time I need for reflection, reading, and healing. I suggest the same for you. Check out "Date or Soulmate" by Neil Clark Warren. Good book for self-reflection.

Sending hugs.

Well, I don't need a woman, but Id sure love the company of a man. but I'm not ready, although I am excited for the day I will be. hang in there and don't break someone else heart

Thanks guys for all the advice I reads every blog and your right. I know I am damaged goods. No woman deserves this crap. But it sure would be nice to have a female freind. If people here werent so nasty and unsociable here if I had some freinds to hang out with build engines or got lift or go for a cruise and get out of town this wouldntn be so bad. But this solo shit really get freekin old. The nearest meet up is a 600 mile round trip we dont have one here in this hole. So the volunteering would probably be my only choice. The bars are out yuck got that crap out of my blood a long time ago. I saw a movie on tV once and one of the actors said: //QYITE: IF YOU MEET SOMBODY IN THE BAR YOU LL LEAVE THEM IN THE BAR. I guess I just keep going solo untill I figure this shit out. Thanks Guys again !:}

you said: No woman deserves this crap.

Try to remember that you don't deserve it either....

am I really going to be the only one to say it?

REALLY?

All right then. Bottle of lotion and access to the internet.
Try torrent download tools (with good anti-virus or the Linux operating system)

But my advise is to learn to use both hands, that way you limit carpal tunnel...etc....

I get what you say about putting someone else through it, and it's smart. I am personally 'not fit for human consumption' right now. I will be, then I'll stop going through so much lotion.

You need to stay single till you're ready to date. This said, it doesn't mean you should avoid females. Make female friends. Be up front and honest with them. Let them know that you are looking for friendship only. (And, keep it to the level of friendship.)

Easier said than done. Like I said everyboyd here doesnt want to chill hang out or do shit. There very anti social. There very negative and dont want to talk. You try and strike up a converstation in the line at wall mart and they will talk to you breifly and brush you off. It really hard to find buds male or female, That why is sucks so bad I really dont have any freinds male or female and no freekin life.

Well, you have us crazy messed up DS people....

Speaking of which, can you fix my daugthers car? I think the engine probably shouldn't be SMOKING right? and when you turn the ignition, the engine should start running right? When the starter is gone, when you turn the car off, does it still kind of run????

Hey Cuda,

Are there other towns close by? Maybe you could join a gym there. Expand your horizens buddy. You seem to be outgoing.

I still think it's best not to rush, but making new friends seems to be what you need.