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So coming back from the past story, I had been talking to my ex and she had been telling me that she still cares and she wants to work on our relationship.
This last Wednesday she invited me to go meet her for dinner so we could talk about what had happened. So we met up and we ate and she wouldn’t let me pay, took my wallet and everything, and now she’s trying to have come over to my place next Saturday and spend the night with me (we live in separate cities). We had a good night and she told me that the guy had been manipulating her and using her feelings from our hurting relationship to get her to go to him, but he was using her as a side girl.
she says that her therapist says that because she got rejected by this guy, she can’t stop thinking about the guy and why she would be rejected, every time we talk she brings up the guy.
She he tells me that it’s a real turn off that I’m scared that she will do this again in the future and she said she wants to have the spark between us like when we met 4 years ago.
Im supposed to meet her next Tuesday for dinner and that Saturday we will have dinner sit and talk and maybe a romantic night together.
She says that we aren’t together but we are talking and she says she’s not speaking to anyone else because she wants us to work through our issues or if we can’t, move on.
I don’t know exactly how to feel about everything and spring back and fourth from being gung-ho to pulled back from her. What do you all think about the situation.
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
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Sounds like when the other guy rejected her and used her as the "side piece", she's running back to you for some temporary comfort.
She said you two aren't together. Not a good sign, I'm afraid. She's leaving her options open until someone else comes along. My advice is tread lightly, don't get your hopes up that everything is now fine and dandy, because it sure isn't. She doesn't even sound remorseful for cheating on you! Seems she is into the excitement of some/any new thing. Be careful.
Saying that if we jump into it and just find out that we aren’t a match we will both get hurt again.
Her words
And, based on your history with her, "her words" are always truthful??
Just something to think about.
I appreciate your honesty. Certainly, no one can tell you what the right thing to do is for you. You are the only one that can determine that. However, if you are having second guessing what she is saying, then you should probably trust yourself. Also, of course that girl still cares about you, caring about someone does not go away over night. However, the question is does she care about you the right way? It also sounds as if she is still really hurting from this other guy and she may have come back to your for comfort, which can be understandable. But, you deserve the best and whether she likes it or not, it is valid for you to wonder if she will cheat again. You may not want to hear this and I can understand that, but there are plenty of fish in the sea too. I know you care for her deeply, but you deserve someone who is always truthful with you. I hope she is not just saying you guys are "talking" because she is hoping that other guy will change his mind. Again, you deserve better. Keep in touch though!