Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My husband left me after 6 years (I spoke about him ghosting me in a previous post). After minimal contact & me still having the bulk of his stuff (still have the snakes!) I found his profile on a dating app.
Every bit of info on it is a lie. It has completely gutted me and now I’m trying to deal with the possibility that our entire relationship was also a lie.....
This has floored me. How do I work through the feeling of absolute betrayal?
If you have been in a similar situation, can you please let me know how you got through it?
Feeling very lost....
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
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I'm horrified! I knew my insurance would go up due to getting a new car but I didn't expect it to go up over $2,000. I did have an accident with the snow/ice in the winter. I was just telling my brother that I have had my car since March 2, 2026 and have only spent $75 on an oil change. Now this! I called another insurance company and their quote was over $4,000. I guess I have to pay...
I feel like we are drawn into certain relationships that reflect our state of development. Whatever brought you together may have run it's course and now you are left reflecting if that was time wasted. I feel some people inspire us to grow and evolve, and others keep us trapped in routines of co-dependency and toxic illusion. Robin Williams said: "I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone."
It may be daunting to try to step back and figure out what he represented to you, and who he really was. People are masters at hiding their true selves. All you can do now is hold you head up and collect the pieces, look forward and hope that your new journey as a wiser, stronger person, will lead you to a better place and deeper relationships. Ultimately you may look back and realize he did you a favor by showing his true colors, so you didn't have to spend decades with a person who ultimately flaked.
Like we said before, you need him to get his snakes, and his hoarded items, completely out of your house. Leave him a message, however you have to get him the message, that on ("this date"... and make the date soon) you will be removing all of his belongings, including his snakes.
This is one of the first steps in you moving on.
But you need to remember that despite that...your love was real. Your feelings were real. Your hopes and dreams with him were real.
I have to come to a place where I feel extremely disappointed in him as a person.
I still feel the pangs sometimes of why wasn't I good enough? But I remember that I was good enough. As were you...you were together 6 years. It's his inability to be faithful, to be a stand up guy, that lead him to disappear and give himself a clean slate.
One day you're going to realize he did you a favor. But right now I know it hurts. Write it out, and realize that you're not alone!
Sending you light and love. Hope your day gets better.
Ulimate Betrayal-First its at 50%.This is your portion. You cant control another human- what he says, does feels ,morally has instilled,his maturity level,all of this. I am going to keep this short,sweet. This forum- its really an Angelic like chamber or something-every soul on here reaching out ,pouring out to let you know 1)your not alone. so 1st realization 1)your not alone,others have gone through it.2) No one put a gun to your head so assume that 50% is the portion so your gonna accept to deal with that. 3) That 50% is what your focus is gonna be on.4)Realization#2 1) No blame because you were with this guy 2) There is a blame if you see signs and you still allow yourself to stay in it.3)This means that you self abandoned-what was needed to nurture you was placed on the back burner.4)Why is that?Right now your mental being on him means your brain is defaulting to not nurturing and healing yourself through self love back to wholeness-but its on him?.
When I realized in my own life times when I settled in marriage, in my own expectations for myself I realized time had to be spent webbing,(Sort of like when a storm hits and it destroys a spiders web -she works nonstop diligently to repair it,If another storm comes she works nonstop quickly repairing it but if the 3rd storm hits - she packs it up and builds a new home elsewhere.So we learn in this.A new home is from the foundation up.
Here is the truth-straight facts- you attract whatever is attracted to the energy and frequency you are on. Change your self ,you change your mental,your want,desires,choice of a mate, friends, work preference, your outlook dna changes too.
Promised Id keep it short sorry- How I do these things is I focus on myself and anything positive self nurturing,I occupy my thoughts and time with things such as this even if its by force.Thanks for sharing hope it helps just a little. My sincerest deep felt hugs to you in that clarity, renewal, serenity,brightness these you will grab them quickly for it is at your disposal for good use such as for now. Congrats though because although you dont see it in this blink of an eye a beautiful destiny awaits you-waiting for you to take the first step to embrace it.
Almost forgot what also helped me was.... to open my arms and RELEASE this person back to the Universe in good spirits in a loving manner hoping that they would go on to have a peaceful filled destiny- I had to do this over and over- to stay on a positive ,high energy,clear frequency( no residue from the past allowing to build up).
Peace Love Light