Maybe there is? I know both of my marriages I really don;t know who said it first. I honestly can;t remember.. But it was fast, within a few weeks. Maybe there is something to it, but I do know that when I said it I meant it and I kept my first marriage together for 12 years.. I say I bc it's true, I bent I conformed I tried to be what she wanted.. Sadly I did the same the second time.. I think I have learned that I have to be who I am and if that isn't good enough then no amount of I love yous should make the difference.. I can't afford to lose myself again, and yeah maybe it is a vague word after all..

Hi faithful triple 7 ~ My driver's license says I'm 60, but I'm not so sure about that.Does anyone know at what age someone officially earns geezer status?

Lance--LOL!!!
Not that it's helpful, but the Urban Dictionary states:

geezer
In the U.K.: A guy, a bloke, a person in general. The British equivalent of the American slang word "dude".
In the U.S.: An old man, particularly one who is either cranky or eccentric. Rather derogatory term.
(UK) "You're looking for Johnny? Yeah, he's that geezer over there in the green coat."
(US) "Old man Anderson keeps yelling at the kids playing outside. That geezer!"

So... would you rather be classified under the US version or the UK version? :D

The UK definition - Does that mean that I have to move there? I love fish & chips. :)

Nah. Just adopt the attitude/mindset/whatever. :) I think your pirate outfit would go well with a newly adopted UK attitude...

Fish and chips rocks... when served out of newspaper. Sigh.

do you people know what it feels like to be in love?
or to love your mom?
or to love your child?
how about your best friend?

have you ever said the words to those people?

then you know what love is for cryin out loud !

I think the ratio between those people who say it and dont meant it
vs the ones who feel it when they say it
is actually pretty damn small.

no?

I don't think that there is a specific time frame for your significant other to say "I Love You." I've known of relationships when the significant other said the three words early in the relationhip and they are still together and the opposite when one or the other took a while and they are not longer together.

Without a doubt there are exceptions to every rule.

I truly like the word "cherish" better. When I think of my marriage in that context, I was never cherished, or at least I NEVER felt that way. My STBX said it too soon I think too, but I said it back because I felt it. Somehow I think there is a correlation to sex. Seemed to be pretty close to right after our first time. Looking back now I can see it wasn't love but the "honeymoon" stage of a new romance. Live and learn. Won't make that mistake again. Will probably make others instead!

I would give the coin back. If it is truly that coin that he says it is, he should have it whether he remembers you have it or not. Unless it serves you some use, of course.

As for saying those 3 words; I think there are many different ways two people can love each other, friends, family, etc. But I think, if we stay within the context of what I believe the post was written about, when saying it to a romantic love interest, that you are in love someone, I believe some will say it because of what they are feeling at that moment. Whether it is during a sexual act, or are just sharing a bottle of your favorite drink on a beach enjoying the night moon. Its a feeling that comes over you about the person you are with, during any moment that touches your heart. I think you should be able to express your feelings when you feel them without repercussions cus of what another may think you mean or feel. That we as humans should be more open to those who do just share. Ask for clarification if words shared cause a concern, but open and honest with whoever you are with and most likely, it won't be a problem when or where something is said. It may just be something nice to hear once and awhile from someone who just cares about us.