I can only say that I've read some posts here from women that state they would NEVER date a divorced man... I'm sure that divorce still carries some stigma - but I do think it depends on your age - more if you're over middle aged and less if you aren't.

Divorcing my ex was the best thing I've ever done for myself, but I know how you feel. I feel the stigma when it comes to people knowing I'm a single mom. They find out and I have kids and then they say, I didn't realize you were married? It always makes me feel sheepish. I hope that feeling goes away with more time...

From a female point of view, I don't assume the guy is the cause of it. But that's partly because I'm realizing from this site how many guys get cheated on.

IMO, it's better than a guy who was never married at 50ish. Then my warning signs would go off.

I guess that I we can all thank our exes for screwing up our lives. It was so nice of them to scar us emotionally and then attach a stigma to us.

LOL Maggie - I agree.

Nope. Doesn't bother me.

Not yet divorced, but it's in the works... The divorce will be the best thing for me & my kids. I just didn't wanna say I was divorced.
I have since rethunk it & I don't have to say I'm divorce, all I gotta say is 'I'm single again'...

Well according to my STBX im the cheatin hoe, and to everybody that is his friends and family think that, too bad it aint true its the other way around..I would have no problem dating a divorced man..things happen people change...is life. People are human.

Heave, I used to think the same way, that my X screwed up my life, but I've changed my mind in this past year...
I knew what was going on. I'm not stupid, I knew there was something wrong with my marriage, yet I chose to stay in it for 18 years.
He did not force me to leave, yeah, he sweet talked me until I either came back 'home' to him or decided not to leave him, (aka honeymoon stage)...
I even knew about the wheel of abuse, the honeymoon stage, walking on eggshells, I even knew I was abused, YET I STAYED!!!
I cannot blame X for screwing up my life because I chose to let him.
I'm not saying you have to agree with me, I'm just saying that I'm standing up for my role in the abuse cycle & my role was staying...
Had I left, he would have not had me to abuse & I would have gotten on with my life a whole lot sooner than I chose to, but that's all past & I can't change the past...
All I can do is work in the present to make a better future... for both me & my kids...

I meant he could not force me to stay.
I stayed by my own free will.

Yes, there is a Stigma! When you first begin talking with someone new the topic Inevitably comes up. Then you let them know you're divorced and you get that elongated 'Ooooh....' and that vague look in their eye like they're weighing the contagibility of Lepersy. I considered saying I was a Widow but I know eventually I'd be forced to drive out to California and kill the poor bastard to perpetuate the illusion, and I'm too pretty for prison so I remain just divorced.

I'm not sure why there is a Stigma seeing how 50% of marriages in America end in divorce, but now that I think about that may just be a very small segment of the population getting married in the first place.
I try not to appear as 'scarred' I believe in 'Loving like you've never been hurt' anything less would be unfair to any future mate in my eyes. But even if you throw you all into a new relationship the fact remains, they know you've failed at it at least once already!

I worry so much it makes me bleed from the hands and feet.

Never experienced a stigma associated with it. In fact, I think a lot of women might actually prefer a divorced guy since it suggests that at some point, the guy, at least, had enough commitment to get married in the first place.

Didn't any one tell you guys, haven't you heard, we all have divorce kooties. Every one knows its catching and if you hang around some one who has been divorced well it will happen to you too. I have friends that stay in touch and a few cousins but for the most part I never hear from my extended family now if she had died they would probably have at least shown up at the house.

If you meet the right person, it shouldn't matter if you are divorced, blue, an alien, whatever--because even though I have been through allot I do believe when you meet the right person you meet the right person. Too bad for those people that pass up on some people by judging. I would rather date a divorced man than a single jerk!

Half the population is divorced, as is most married people at one time or another. The weirdo's are the one's never divorced...they are all 102 years old by now. Where ya been?