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serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks

I just honestly had a rough two years. This is all after my breakup. My ex and me have 3 kids that we co parent relatively well. At times I miss having someone to parent with in same house. Seeing as he is there and around so I figure that's better than totally single with no help. I don't want to date as it scares me with kids and I feel like I such a wreck in life and don't need to make anyone deal with that. I also refuse to date online. I just figured I will be forever alone but don't feel hopeless if that makes any sense. My mom died nearly 2 years ago and this has just taken a toll on me mentally. Then had car accident I still suffer with pain from. March forced to quit my job because of schedule change. I work now but and so upside down financially as it teeters from pt to ft hours. I really feel alone and struggle daily. I really just venting as I have no one to vent to it seems. Things are piling faster than I can fix them. 

MemphisWH
MemphisWH
You have to take care of yourself. You must make sure you are being the best version of yourself.
Having your EX around might be holding you back from living.
You have to make sure you are living the life you want to live as an example to your children.
Being uncomfortable dating is understandable, but don't hold yourself back because of false ideas, everyone has "baggage" we are all adults.
Online dating can be fun and help build your confidence to real world dating.
BE happy with yourself and if not make it a life goal to be happy with yourself.
11Christmases
11Christmases
This does sound like a rough couple of years. Life is tough with nobody to talk to. I'd suggest a few sessions with a therapist if you are able. Just talking and sorting out feelings can help. I know these recurring appointments can be hard to schedule, but even a few sessions can do some good. I also recommend meetup.
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I do need to seek therapy. onc my work gets more staboaized with benefits and such My ex is around for our kids it's kinda required we talk, but it's only about or for the kids. We simply co parent. I am working on mys of best I can I just have had alot thrown at me over last two years. I feel very alone. I don't want to date yet but I feel eventually I will or should. Either way I got too much going on to date.
CharlotteIsabellasp
CharlotteIsabellasp
The last couple of years was rough for you but you need to stay positive and try therapy. You should try to move on and maybe start dating maybe after some time. Right now you need to work on yourself.
CoderMom
CoderMom
It's extremely challenging when life keeps sending you sour lemons and expecting an excellent batch of lemonade... After a while, you get really good at jumping through life's hoops...
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Yes it is though I try to.be positive. I not worried about dating at all. I have too much I need to work on and kids to care for. I appreciate the responses.
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