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Should I??

Getstronger
Getstronger

Just wondering if I should confront the guy that slept with my wife I  have resisted from doing this for 10months now but the urge is getting stronger by  the day.I'm not a violent man but the fact that he lives across the street from my workplace is tearing me apart. He has waved at me a couple of times.Don't know how long I can resist.Advice anyone,??


 

1Daatatime
1Daatatime
No man. Don't give him the satisfaction. Wave back and move on.
11Christmases
11Christmases
I would continue to ignore him, and eventually he'll get tired of trying to get your attention. I urge you not to confront...I have seen way too many episodes of Dateline to tell you otherwise. Believe me, it can escalate quickly. Walk away.
Jordan9o
Jordan9o
I'm sorry that you have to see him everyday. Remember what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. There's a good woman out there waiting to meet you. Try to focus on yourself to be greatest dad and future husband for the next wife. We can't change the past but you can change your future. Let Karma take its course.
strongandsilent
strongandsilent
No!! Goodness, NO!!

Every once in a while I indulge in fantasies of a confrontation where I am so fierce and witty I make the OW feel pitiful, weak, and worthless ... and she curls up with shame and regret and never show her face in public again. The horror and disgust of what she has done hits her full force (cause I am SO fierce and awesome) and she is a pitiful shell consumed with self loathing for the rest of her life.

Great fantasy. Would not give it up for the world.

Reality would be a different story.
-- They know what they did - they do not care.

-- you ex partner will hang you out to dry, reminding you how shocking it is they could have done this to you.

-- there is nothing positive you can get from it.

Don't do it!! Shake the dust from your saddles and move on... despite how painful it is.