I was so enraged that I called the other woman. She didn't care. Knew full well he was marries with kids, but since he told her we've had a lovelas marriage for years, she wasn't the reason. Told her she was affecting an entire family. She couldn't care less. But I'm glad I did it, shaky voice and all. Now, as they continue their relationshio, my anger grows and I wish I could physically confront her.
Have you thought about what you would say to him?

so sorry man, i tried that and what was even painful is that my wife took the guys side claiming that am embarrassing her. guess what happened..4 days ago my wife left me i just walked home and she was gone..not even a note...am in pain but here is what i can tell you...even if you confront that guy what about the others that you cannot see? she is the only one who can stop the sleeping around...i tried talking to mine and well lets just say i no longer have appetite and i dont sleep much

I wasn't going to talk have done that already he just lied to me about stuff she already told me.I am feeling the urge to hit him for all the damage he done to my kids home I've lost everything over him.I'm try to ignore my urges but it doesn't help when I see them coming in and out of his place.like I said I'm not violent person but I need to make him uncomfortable when he sees me not grinning at me.

I know it hurts when you are reminded of them when you go to work. Just remember that violence will cause more issues. When you get those urges, just think about repercussions that it will cause. You have to stay strong for your kids. HUGS.

Anyone who gets involved with a married person, listens to their sob story and gets into a relationship with them is crossing a serious line.

If these individuals had any respect for themselves and one ounce of morality they'd tell the person to go home, settle their business and call when theyre divorced.

I hope I offended some people out there.

Original poster, don't bring yourself down to that level. I know it's hard when some piece of moral shit messes with your life and is inappropriate.

I was mad as a hatter, but got him in court. She got him, and honey he's no prize.

Get your revenge legally and by leaving those people to wallow in their mess.

Have a happy life without either one of them in it. It's the best revenge.

I was just having this talk, keep the other
Person out of your head. Your spouse is the
One you should be angry with. She said her
Vows to you, she is the one married to you
Not him. It does you no good to obsess over
The affair partner.

Some people go so far as to envision them
Together. That is nothing short of trying for
Insanity. Stuff like that only messes with your
mind and mental health.

Keep the focus where it truly belongs "your
Spouse" and work from that. My ex had a Gf
I try not to put her in my head if it wasnt her
It would have been someone else. He was
Checked out and looking and when you are
Looking guess what he found. HUGS

After what i went through with my cheating ex-wife, I wish I'd just dumped he out of the car in his front yard and made the whore his problem, not mine.

It was so, so, so not worth it try to reconcile with her. Such a waste of time and money. Not to mention emotional pain.

Direct it at your spouse, she is the one that broke your vows. Doing anything will only hurt your kids, when you get in trouble. Trust me it would be you getting in trouble. Stay focused on getting better, its a long road.

Thanks everyone for your response.I'm doing my best to stay away from him but just the sight of them together is getting to much I know my marriage is dead in the water.I have had too many arguments with my stbx,can't do it anymore.L wanted to ask him to move elsewhere but not going to,if he had any savvy he would,guess he doesn't know the meaning of sitting duck!!! :-)

Thanks everyone for your response.I'm doing my best to stay away from him but just the sight of them together is getting to much I know my marriage is dead in the water.I have had too many arguments with my stbx,can't do it anymore.L wanted to ask him to move elsewhere but not going to,if he had any savvy he would,Guess he doesn't know the meaning of sitting duck!!! :-)

Hang on, thats tough seeing them maybe
They will move. HUGS

Don't do it! I had the same feeling and situation LAST NIGHT. But that leads to someone being able to charge you with a crime and possible jail time. That would be a stupid move - how do you explain it to the kids???. Stay cool man and find something else that is healthy to use as a release for your anger. Never self medicate with drugs or alcohol either. Good luck.

Keep her in your mind then it wont
Think so violent either. Its still going to
Be Hard, Stay sane.

Keep your maturity In every possible
way. You can think Whatever you like,
try journeling your Thoughts and F&E.

Go to therapy, join support groups, work
Out to get your aggresiion out. Rage is
Scary i had it and had to work hard to get
It to dissipate. HUGS

The Bible talks about letting God get revenge on our behalf and to pray for those who harm us. This advance would be that how will confronting this person help your relationship with your spouse. The strength and the courage with you is what is being challenged here. I would suggest not confronting your neighbor but to be strong in you faith and pray for him. This will require forgiveness of your spouse and your neighbor and do all you can to help him.
Proverbs 25; 21-22 21If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat,and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, 22for you will heap burning coals on his head,and the LORD will reward you.

That this jerk is in your face every day is a horrible thing to have to deal with. Like everyone said, don't touch him, or her. Purposefully divert your gaze away from his house whenever you're leaving work. Get into a routine where when you're leaving work you pull your keys out of your pocket, check your phone, look up at the clouds, whatever. You can do all sorts of things to him in your head, but let those things go no further. If I may show my juvenille side, sometimes I look at stbx, squint my eye at him, then l put my thumb and index finger up in front of my eyes as a sort of view finder. Then I flick at the small image with my other hand. Dumb, but relieves some of the pressure.