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onmymind2000 02/16/2015

That's what I've been thinking lately. What nerve. I know I made it easy by taking her lying, wretched tail back time and time again, so I will shoulder and carry that part of the blame for sure. But, the nerve? To live in my house, drive my car, let me be a doting boyfriend and put her needs first, and then shut me out in the cold?

Telling me she never wants to get married, that it's just a piece of paper, and then gets engaged to some other guy? Then leave 75% of her shit here, and I'm picking up the pieces, figuratively and literally. Because, what the hell else can I do? Sit in my house and look at her shit? No thanks.

I'm not missing her right now, I am mourning the opportunities I may have missed out on while I was wasting away for 13 years with a serial cheater. Who knows what I could have done, where I could have gone, or who I could have ended up with?

All of these missed opportunities going down the drain like everything else.

kbbcoop77 02/16/2015

When my ex-wife left me after 24 years she basically left everything here but her clothes. That perplexed me for a bit. It was like she just couldn't wait to get out of here.. But it is what it is and realistically I got left with everything so I'm pretty good with it haha. I even let her come back twice to get stuff when I left the house and I couldn't even tell what she took! They are on their own path now... Just have to let her go

murphytoronto 02/16/2015

True that is
Rotten as it is
It sucks and is so vile

I am sorry....and yes , she did it to me also

serenityspeaks 02/16/2015

that's how I feel...mine wasn't a cheater but wasted 13 years of my life for him. we never married because he really didn't want too. and I feel so cheated even though I know I stayed...dummy me

JennyMe 02/16/2015

I hear you brother. You are so right.

it is so messed up.. but there has to be something good to come out of this? just continue to be the bigger person and rise above.. karma will prevail.

hugs

onmymind2000 02/17/2015

Thanks everyone. It's nice to know that even if it's really screwed up, I know people understand.

murphytoronto 02/19/2015

Those missed opportunities bite

at 50 knowing I wasted 20 years on the wrong woman who was old enough to know better

Now....I feel old and not good enough

idontmakeherhapyenuf 02/19/2015

Maybe this way you are available for the best opportunities in your life and not tied to a different waste of time to prevent you from taking advantage of them. Good luck.

murphytoronto 02/19/2015

Perhaps...and a very cool way of looking at it

strongerin15 02/19/2015

Mine left while telling me not to worry, that it would all work out....and all the while, he was painting his house to suit his girlfriend (He had the house before we got married, I sold mine to buy "our" house). We have been married for over 11 years, together for over 12. From what I can tell NOW, he cheated on me most of that time, if not all of it. He'd been on a trip and when he left, he just took the clothes he had with him....left EVERYTHING here....I got tired of looking at it and packed it all up as if I was moving it, really carefully, and after almost 2 years, he just finally came and got it. I had it all stacked up (except for clothes in closet) in a back bedroom, where I had the door closed. I didn't even want to look at it. How can they be so heartless and cold to somebody they were supposed to have loved? I feel like my last 12 years has been a lie. He was my 2nd husband...first passed away at the age of 42. I trusted him...totally...and got screwed. BIG time!!

zoey200823 02/20/2015

I"ve been married almost 9 years together for 10 years. He's a serial cheater and it just perplexes me D-day was 3 days ago

idontmakeherhapyenuf 02/20/2015

Cheating is the worst kind of betrayal and I hurt for you all. No one deserves the pain of broken promises of love, but they are pissing on everything good about love and respect. To say these people do not deserve the pain you feel for them is an understatement... but I also know it is futile for you did and do love them. I wish I could somehow send you strength but I am lacking in that area myself right now. I hope your hearts find peace.

onmymind2000 02/20/2015

IDONT - hey, thanks for reaching out. Just being here to talk helps.

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