I will kick this off.. To my stbx... I miss you very much and wish things hadn't turned out the way they have. I want closure and to understand why you married me, then discarded me 3 months later, and started into a relationship with someone else 2 weeks after that. How could you be so uncaring. I must swallow the bitter pill of never really understanding why you left me and I have to face the fact that I will not get closure from you. I will have to look within and forge ahead giving up the notion of understanding why you did it; knowing that the closure will have to come from me. I think about you nearly every night and wonder what you are doing, and anguish over the fact that you are with someone else and moved on so quickly. I want my pain to end. Nuff said.

OMG I hate that we can't edit posts here... I had a type'o; more like a brain hiccup... The website is www.breakuprecoveryguide.com

I actually have nothing I want to say to my ex. But I think this is a good idea for those who may want to. So Imma gonna bump it. :)

Early on I've posted before on these topic headings here and on other sites. It seemed to really help at the time. But after 14 months (almost 15) the only thing I have to say to her is get off your ass and get a job and help support our daughter. As far as me and her that ship has sailed and I couldn't be paid enough to take her back...that would screw up my new found peace and serenity at home :)

i only knew you for 7 mos..but i grown accustomed to you and loved you..but i cannot have you disrespecting me..and when i was sick you were not really concerned..you really know someone when your down..but i may be down but im not out..Im so disappointed..good luck and good bye

You were my world, my best friend and my wife... I miss you more then words can say. Id do anything to be with you again. I can't understand why you feel you need to do this.. I believe in us, I am in love with you and i want nothing more then our family to be whole again. I wish you would reconsider but i can't make you do anything. I cherished you, and it breaks my heart to know you dont think we are worth it. I pray and cry everynight for your return, i fight myself to keep from texting and calling. I love you, I am in love with you and hope you can find your way back soon. I miss you.... My world is nothing without you.

I loved you with every single inch of me. How could you just leave so easily without batting an eyelid. Are you hurting like I do right now? Do you spend nights trying to escape memories and the pain? All I ever wanted was for you to show that you care. Why am I always last on your list of everything? Friends, gaming, exercise, napping. What was I to you other than a toy to entertain you at your beck and call? Was it that difficult for you to drop me a text at any point in time of the day? Am I worth that little to you? You threw all the blame to me, that I'm too clingy, too boring for you. I just wanted that minute of your day and in your eyes, I don't even deserve it.

You know what really hurts? It's everything added up together. Realizing that I was nothing more than a toy to you. Thinking of how stupid I was to give you my everything. Knowing how I can't ever be with you again cause that'll just be torturing myself. Forcing myself to get over you and to forget everything I ever felt. Yet still hoping that one day you'll turn back and pull me into your arms in that way that only you do and ruffle your fingers through my hair.

But at the end of the day, I am nothing but a joke you tell to your friends.

I stop myself everyday from reaching out to you, sometimes i fail... I dont know what to do anymore, I am so lost without you, I am in love with you... I cherished you and our kids, and I want us to be whole again. I believe in us, i wish you would look towards us rather then away for us... together we can be stronger then ever before... im so in love with you, sadly i dont know if I can go on without you. Please come back... please come home, please talk to me.. I miss my wife, my best friend, my world...

To my abusive ex:

Hi, Dickhead. Thank you for all you have shown me. Thank you for getting so inside my head it has taken me a years worth of therapy and nearly as long to get you out as our relationship lasted. Thank you so much for calling me by your ex wife's name when when I disagreed with you or when we fought and for pushing me pick between you and my friends because you "didn't like them and they weren't good people". Thank you so much for controlling me and manipulating me to the point I didn't know which end was up and for stripping away my self confidence inch by precious inch. Thank you so much for the awful names you called me and for putting all our problems on me when we broke up. Thank you so much for calling me and driving past my house after we broke up virtually keeping me stuck in the devastation and in your control. Thank you so much for all the damage you did, because it has TEMPORARILY damaged my ability to trust or let anyone get close. THANK YOU SO EFFING MUCH! I am so much stronger now, thanks to the crap you put me through. I am jaded, but I've learned. I have discovered so much about myself, and it is all thanks to you. I am strong. I am beautiful. I am desirable. I am lovable. I am precious. Most importantly, I deserve better than you. I can and will get better, you; however, will always be a piece of shit. You will always be an abusive ass. You will always be you. I thank God I don't have you in my life, despite the fact my insane heart thinks it wants you, because my head knows everything about you and how dangerous you are for me. So thank you, dickhead! I would not be the woman I am today, if it wasn't for you. By the way, if I walked past you in an alley and you were on fire, I wouldn't piss on you to put the fire out, unless I was pissing gasoline. Good luck to you, dickhead, and I only wish I'd had the honor to see the girl you dated after me beat the shit out of you. It would have made my day.

Julie

My ex is dead. She died in Jan of 2013. I went to her the day before she died and asked her if she had anything to say to me and she said "No. I asked her if there was anything she wanted to ask me, again her reply was "No". I then told her " I didn't want you to die with hatred towards me". She replied "everything is ok between us". She then closed her eyes and went into a morphine induced sleep. The died the next morning at 3:08 a.m.

Three years prior to this, I went to the hospital ICU, told her whatever I had done to make her hate me the past 40 years, I was sorry. She couldn't speak due to the ventilator so she wrote on a pad "thank you". I joined hands with our son and daughter with her and I had prayer with her. After they got her cancer in remission for almost 3 years, her actions towards me were not very civil or friendly so, I gave it one more and final try just before she died.

Sorry old biker hope you have found peace

I lay here in bed alone a broken man that was once strong. You ripped my heart and family away on yourselfish search for happiness without even telling me why your not happy. I cry for you every night. My heart longs for your voice and touch I am in love with you and would do anything for you. I barely want to live without you. I pray for your return please come home I need you and I love you more each day your gone.

Dear Ex,

I really have nothing to say to you. I have been paying far too long and too much for someone else who hurt you and it will come to an end soon. Thanks for the lesson. I intend never to make the same mistake.

*kudos on sja :-)

You have taken so much away from me... almost over night... my heart is destroyed, and the only remaining pieces still beat for you... I want to hate you... i can't get myself to do that, and i hate myself for it. Id give anything in this world for you... I want to beg you everyday to stop this and come back, I am on my knee's like a weak pathetic man... I know I shouldn't be, but i am because im so inlove with you... I want my family whole... Please ill do anything. Please....

Ok - great place to vent -

I can sum it up simple - you hurt me, you crushed me, you destroyed friendships that you have made, you destroyed our family, your children, everything.
All for what, my career took off and you got to reap all the benefits - a loving husband that always put you first, a $50,000 suv, paid vacations, gym memebers, kids in day care while you sit home and enjoy life, money in your account, never asked for a damn thing except to be acknowledged and loved.

I busted my ass and dealt with so much political work crap to build something in a industry where it is impossible to have a family - I beat the odds and did it 15 years early. I am here, we did it, we are young, I have us set for a good life and colleges paid with out loans for the kids - and you destroy that, for what a heroin addict scum bag.

But what you did not count on was that I would lick my wounds, that I would get stronger, grow as a man. All the future rewards will go to my kids and there kids - I am a family guy, I am loyal, compassionate and driven. Someone will benefit from me with my mind, body and sprit. You do not control me anymore, enjoy the moment I will enjoy the future.