Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
Just thought I would join this group now that I am a widower. My wife passed away May 28th. She was "The Wind Beneath My Wings". When I met her, I was a drunken, dope smoking, fighting, hell raising biker. She told me if I could get rid of the inner storm within me, that I could be a blessing to people. God placed her in my path to stop me. I have been drug and alcohol free now for 53 yrs., this coming Sept.
She was my everything. Numerous times a day, every day, I told her I loved her. Just a few hours before she died, I said "I love you" and she nodded her head, "yes". I rubbed her face and said, "You are my sweetie, always have been, always will be". She whispered "I know". She passed away a few hours later.
I can find things to do during the day but, when the sun goes down, and it gets dark. it gets lonely. Just me and my little old dog now. She is old and sleeps a lot. There is such a void. such a feeling of needing someone here with me to talk to. I text her sister and some people from my church just to have conversation for a little while.
just thought I'd join this group for a while. I have been here on DS for over 20 yrs.or more. Thanks for letting me just say a few words here.
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Now that I am not talking to my whatever best friend, I realized that her life is full of drama. I had grown tired of hearing her stories about her boyfriend many months ago. She basically had been monopolizing conversations for that long too. She pretty much stopped asking me questions about me. I passed her in front of her classroom the other day and didn't even look at her. I am...
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I've been on high dose prednisone for pneumonia, and now I am slowly weaning. But lots of symptoms I don't like having, plus overeating has put at least 10 lbs on me. The food is "loud" as the GLP-1 users refer to it.Also pressured speech. Which comes out in my posts. Sorry I posted so much. I just need an outlet for my agitated and irritable brain. Just scroll on by my posts, if they are too...
I'm glad, and you give yourself a pat on the back for getting up and going to keep busy during the day...that's more than I do atm. Taking care of your little dog...furbabies are So Important!!!
I don't know how social you are, but if your town has a senior center that might be a place to go to for meals and conversation...just a thought.
Take Good Care, Peace Strength and Healing To You!!
This site is a safe space. Here, you can say what you want, or need to get out. Try to start thinking more about yourself, and what you want going forward. In this last year, I have been filling a big hole with little pebbles, like reconnecting with neglected friends and family members, and rediscovering lost hobbies.
I wish you peace and strength, brother.
A grief support group can be helpful. You describe the lonely nights that my friend whose husband died on my birthday in 2024 says. She wanted to work a part time evening job in a store but finally got what I hope turns out to be a long term good job for her. Her husband knew she would need financial help when he died and so he managed to pay off their condo early. Then he died young and she has been in total shock but her grief recovery group is helping her. She says being with other people in mourning helps her realize she is not alone and is moving forward baby step by baby step.
I am not mourning the loss of a spouse but the post popped up in my feed. I have had about 10 people, acquaintances and much loved friends, die in the last two years and I was pretty depressed for a while.