i think both men and women look at porn. IMO it can be harmless. everything in moderation. In my experience it is only used as a stimulant during "personal time".. and i think thats ok. I saw porn that my ex had left up. as long as it wasn't anythign freaky.. and if he was ok.. and could laugh ab it when we talked ab it i don't think its a problem. its ab moderation.. when it is something you do on occassion vs. a compulsion/addiction.

I watched it and she knew about it.
She watched it and I knew about it
And we both watched it and well, fun ensued.

I can't speak for all men of course.

I can go weeks without viewing porn, and other times several times in a week.
All of my immediate friends also view it.....and we joke about it.
I can't speak for their frequency, as it's kept at a humorous level.

None of my immediate friends view it with their spouses knowledge. It's like a little kid hiding a playboy magazine I suppose. If their spouse asked, I would expect them to lie as its rather embarrassing. Porn viewing is usually associated with masturbation. I personally have never been asked.

You can see a load of viewing statistics, but I would say its a fairly high percentage.

But, because many do it, it doesn't make it right. Large percentages of the population do all kinds of unhealthy things ...like gambling, drinking, smoking, etc.

I {heart} porn but only watch it once in a blue moon. I think I've watched it more being single than I was in my marriage. I have my own and I keep in hidden away. =p

I get to watch what I like now at least. My ex was into things I wasn't into. I think everything should be in moderation. Too much on anything can be bad for you.

Like blindside said its usually associated (a prelude) to masturbation. So its not hiding anything its more like if your wife uses her vibrator and puts it away after, is she hiding it?

Frequency wise whos to say. I suppose if you think its a problem or your wife thinks its a problem maybe you have a problem.

We'd watch a PPV porn together about once a month. I'm surprised at how often I hear about this causing problems. I'm not saying there isnt cases where men are fiends/weird about it but once I read a dear abbey type column about it and the columnist seemed pretty quick to say "leave your husband - porn is evil""

There are several studies that men look at porn during the marriage. I am going to go there with this and there are also several studies that men masturbate during the marriage too. It is not that they dont love their wives it is just natural.

My ex preferred to watch porn than come to bed with me. That was a problem.

I've watched it and if my bf wanted to watch it together, I would have no trouble with that what so ever.

^ GSCH I hope they didnt spend too much money or time on those studies.

There's healthy porn and unhealthy porn. My ex was into unhealthy stuff. It was obsessive and deviant in nature. (And no I'm not a prude.) What I always thought was weird is that he absolutely, vehemently refused to watch porn with me. (I thought it would be fun.) So weird.

I think what is important to realize is that, "typical" or not, if it bothers one to some degree, there has to be some compromise on both parts. Getting to the root of the discomfort is always a good place to start. And, if addiction/compulsion is not an issue, a compromise should be fairly easy to reach.

nope, wasn't hidden, she even signed me up for a year of Playboy

there are some things about men that women deny, prefer to deny, and when a male says them in mixed company, even the men deny it. shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

I think the porn has gotten a bit excessive, but even that bothers me less than the way he was able to lie right to my face. If there were an event for lying in the Olympics, he would have taken the gold. If I had not known it wasn't the truth, I would have believed him. Is that typical for a man to lie his pants off about having porn because he's embarassed?

no, men lie because they KNOW, or feel they know, how YOU would react.

it's all about choices and decisions and odds

lily if my man lied to me about ANYTHING i would be pissed.

thats why i left my ex. the trust was gone.

hugs girl