I feel for you. I wish there was a magic button I could press to make everyone feel better. I know how hard it is to function and put on a brave face for the kids. I don't think friends and family realize the pain and mental stress, the heartache and restless nights we all are experiencing. If they did maybe we'd have more help? I don't know. I just find that I'm always by myself. Nobody to talk to and when I'm around people I put on a brace face and try to hold myself together. But when they leave I crack and break down. I feel stupid because nobody wants to see a grown man cry. I had to leave the grocery store the other day because I saw a family that reminded me of us then our wedding song started playing in the background. I had to leave and go to my car and pull myself together. This is embarrassing for me. I feel strangers looking at me like I'm on drugs or am crazy. I'm neither, I'm just broken hearted. I wish there was an easy fix for us. -hugs-

There's no easy fix. No alcohol, no meds, nothing. This constant pain. I need to get up and sell the house and move. The painful memories are awful.

I hear you. That's why I haven't had a drink since this all happened. I'm afraid I'd try and drown my sorrows and create another problem. For you, maybe selling the house will help you move on. Start new memories in a new house. For me I'm already out of the house. Don't think I'd want to go back for the same reasons you mentioned.

I hate this pain. This is not who I am! I love life! I laugh, I joke, I dance, I sing. I want me back!!!!

I hear you. I thought the pain was over with but dealing with it again tonight...

It never leaves!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorry Koko
I think we would all like to go back to what we were. I'm not sure if we will. I know I'm changed. I'm not saying we can't laugh and be happy again. Our life experiences good and bad make us who we are today so maybe in the future we will all be better people from these experiences.
-basnime- I truly believe someday you will laugh, joke, dance up a storm and sing. 2 years from now maybe we all will be better off. Here's to hope

Well I feel your pain. It's not easy process harder with kids. Then as mom's we must keep going when some days all you want to do is cry. It's overwhelming. I know everyone story is different but days will get easier but even now I get emotions and feel sad some days happy others. It's been almost a year. Often I feel i should be more content but honestly I don't know how to feel.

Ripped here's hoping!!! Serenity a year? Oh dear God no.

A year!

:( I'm a long way from a year. Crap. Was hoping it get better a little sooner.

It's a long slog...it's at least a year sometimes longer depending on a lot of factors, i.e. continued contact, dwelling, not putting in the work to heal like exercise and staying busy. Also have to factor how long you were together. Mine was 24 years together it took a year to start feeling better, 2 years to really start feeling normal. March is 3 years and I can say I'm over her and no longer hurt. Now I'm talking to a gal I knew years ago who also was cheated on and left lol, she's a great person and we laugh etc, you have to heal though believe me it's possible. I was almost suicidal and now I can't believe I even thought of it over that cheater.
Also, if you're really really down talk to your doctor. Xanax helped me in the early days it does take the edge off..

I'm on xanax and anti depressants. I can't eat or sleep without help. Dear God this is awful.

My doc has suggested meds but I'm reluctant to try them. I hate pills but I may have to cave and try.

I know how you are all feeling trust me..
it WILL get better..this is temporary. It does take time but there's light at the end. And you'll be stronger than ever once you're through it.