Whoa! TD speaks. And the sea parts.........

TD... please answer the question as to why someone would want to intentionally hurt someone on a support site?

Please also explain to me how calling a female body part a taco helps anyone heal?

Courier tried to behave as an adult and did a really great job at it and was blasted for it.... why? She stated that this offends her, it does me too and MANY of the ladies of this board... but what does he do? He makes a freaking joke out of it... yes, in my opinion to cause MORE HARM! This board belongs to many people... an ADULT would have said I am sorry and would not have done it again so intentionally to hurt someone..... Freedom of speech... BS... a way to cause harm to someone, yep... that is my belief and he gets his supporters to rally around him and congratulate him for causing the harm.... You can blast me all you want to, cause honestly there are very few good people left on DS.... they have all been run off by the adolescents!

I have found different posts offensive from many posters. I have found triggers that have shook me to the core and it had taken me a couple of steps back. I have seem those offended be offenders. I partake in most of the flavors dealt here and I ignore a few. Diversity, knowledge, growth, regression, progression is par for the course if you seek it. I don't believe in leaving because of an inflammatory remark, a misguided insult, an innuendo that might border crass or blatant crassness. I will leave when I am ready, willing and able.

But...I respect the decisions made whether I agree or disagree.

I got lambasted the other day because I said that "I form my personality out of respect for others first" It happens, so what.....

I can mention that I grew a large cucumber in my garden, it was the largest cucumber anyone has ever seen, I used this new fertilizer, it came in a blue pill form, just mixed with water, it made the cucumber grow and grow into the most firm cucumber that you would ever see, It lasted longer than any of my other cucumbers.... I was so pleased with it, I am going to grow another to share with someone special.

Now, have fun with that one.

Keep it going Dale... it really helps!

Internet message board fights are just tiresome for those of us that want nothing to do with them. If you want to talk about things that scare of newbies, it's probably bullshit like this.

Honestly, enough already. Everyone has had to had their say by now, no? It's obvious no one is changing anyone else's mind over this.

I am a gardener...... Miracle Grow does come in blue pill form.... I will share a garden with someone again someday.... and I will have fun in my own way....

This world is a mish mash of people, emotions, personalities.... one persons fun is another persons harm... and so on and so on.

What bugs me, is if you see Rman's name on the thread........ don't open it!!!

If you know he will migrate to a thread and make a taco post, put him on ignore!!!!

I did not blast Courier, I merely explained her rights and the ways to avoid him.

I have a WHOLE list of people I can't stand or who will say something that pisses me off. Guess What? I see their ugly avis and I scroll down to the next post, I see their stupid names on a thread and I do not open (I will change my rule if I see it pertains to a DSer in trouble). I do not go on their threads and say - CENSOR, CENSOR, CENSOR.

One more thing, we were called people who laugh at Rman, those who have an 8th grade mentality. Well I checked my transcripts and lo and behold..... looks like I went to college!!! I am a mature woman who if a man refers to me as a taco, I can laugh but don't you dare call me a bitch, or a cu**, or blame me for your ex'es cheating.

Okay gotta run, the recess bell just rang.

Not seeing any all out assault here Giddy. They are words, not directed at anyone specifically. No one is being called out here, or directly offended.

I am paid to defend freedom of speech, and freedom to live your life as you see fit, as long as you are not harming someone in the pursuit of that.

In my humble opinion, there's ignore, there's checking to see who created the post, there's private message, there's personal will, about what you let get to you, and what you do.

Rman isn't gunning for Courier. There's no malice intended. If Courier has a trigger for the word taco, and what it can mean, that's something she needs to work out.

Rman has been about taco, since he's been here... and yes sometimes he means something other than the food, but not usually. Sometimes he's insightful, and sometimes he's stupid, it's all part of who he is. I post insightful threads, I post stupid threads. Why am I any different?

I'd be more concerned about someone actually calling someone else out on threads, as I have done. Courier's issue doesn't lie with Rman, it lies with a trigger called respect. This may have been something that she let fall to the wayside in her life, and now is trying to regain control of. It's unfortunate, but she isn't going to get that in all cases, from all people. I certainly don't. But if she allows someone in her peripheral to drive her healing, or her life, what does that say about her? It's not like they are friends, shared intimacy, thoughts or anything of the like.

I find Courier intelligent and insightful, and will miss her, but if she feels she has to leave due to someone, and the way that they present themselves, that's on her, not Rman.

And when the harm is actually brought to light , you actually think that it is ok to keep it going, even though it has been pointed out that it is causing someone harm? Make a joke out of it and the person that it hurts?

I don't see it as harm.

Rman didn't say "TD66, I hate you and want to kill your children". He said something about tacos and french fries.

He didn't say..."TD66 I ate your taco last night, and she was good!"

He's not trying to disrupt anyone's core here, and I think that's the point you are missing.

He's also not responsible for other people's thoughts on the boards, so if the mob came out, made their comments, that's no on him either.

TD... you cannot avoid this no matter what thread you go into.... it pops up in almost every thread.... it is disrespectful, especially after it has come out that it actually offends some... Yes, we all have a right to speak our minds, but when you are actually asked to curtail it and you do this, there in my opinion was no other intent except to cause harm!

So Courier is leaving because of me? Why? Is it because I joke about tacos? Why hasn't she talked to me before? Did she see my thread yesterday about food combos? I mentioned biscuits with gravy and fried chicken. I also stated in another thread that I was going to get a Big Mac or a Whopper for dinner. I have received my share of hate mail from day one. People tell me to leave DS because I talk about nonsense, yet those same people turn around and post youtube threads. I'm not going to change who I am and I am not purposely trying to offend anyone. So please just put me on ignore if you don't like me. Or perhaps you get off on insulting me? Either way, I really don't give a flying fuck....

Why is "cunt" the most offensive word for some? Are we supposed to feel innate shame regarding our vaginas? I don't get it.

Nope, you are stepping on someone's freedom of speech, plain and simple.

It would be like me telling you not to post about your children, as I find them offensive.

I think I have made my point, and feel there's really nothing more to discuss on the matter. We will just have to agree to disagree, unfortunately at the loss of your friend.