I would talk to the ex if it was me and tell him that is is not ok for her to message you.....I would be as sick as you are if it was me. I believe your breakup is fairly new and you already have to deal with his gf! I would be upset. How old are your kids? Is he a good father before all this and minus the cheating?

They are 3 and 5 and he is an ok father when he is here.. when he is not here he pretty much acts like they dont exist..

my understanding is, when something makes you feel like you want to throw up, it's usually something your brain wants you not to swallow to begin with

and so it's been my experience to listen to those sorts of signals

I know it's hard but I would ignore her
Nothing pisses people more than that
Poor thing. I'm sorry you are going through this s

If it were me....I'd wish her luck and put an emoticon at the end...

Love #5.

tell her to frack off then de-friend her and the ex

I told her how he really is.. I posted what I wrote to her in "advice please".. I dont care if she believes me or not, all I know is when he does her wrong (he already cheated on her) she'll remember my words. Matter of fact, I did the same with OW #2 and 3 a they both eventually wrote me telling me I was right and apologizing!
I am not friends with either of them.. Have never been her friend and deleted bd last summer after he choked me.

Kourtney, sorry you are having a bad time. I read your whole story and... OMG what does she think she is??????? paying instead of your ex so he can see his kids?????? is she an idiot??? they are HIS children, NOT hers!! HE must be a MAN and assume the responsibility AND the expenses! I feel pity for this woman but he is clearly manipulating her like a mindless zombie. Good for your response, let her deal with his crap, she deserves it for being stupid enough to believe this evident sociopath.

Excuse me if I sound rude, but I'm having a bad day too.