Rman.

It's okay.

It just means you are insane.

Thanks man. For a minute there, I thought I might actually be sane (or a taco addict).

Seriously though.

Change the thought process.

First ask, is there any way I can change this without getting arrested?

If no, go to next thought.

If yes, CHANGE IT!

All my solutions involve jail time...

I'm not insane.
I'm fine.
Everyone ELSE is insane, and they are after my magic eggs....

i hear voices and they dont like you

i'm insane and obsessing

I know what you're talking about,its hard to let go of things that were such a big part of our lives.
I've been trying the keep moving treatment, so long as Im doing something, Im not brooding over something I can't change.
like the great philosopher/fjord designer Slartibartfast said- "hang the sense of it and keep yourself busy"
Its not sure fire, but its helped some

Why? Because we're human.

What good does it do? Hopefully eventual acceptance.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0ET4iIpDpo&feature=related

There are nice young men with clean white coats to help you.

As much as we want these obsessive thoughts to STOP and come to an end...I also believe that these thoughts have become something similar to a "safety blanket." After obsessing for so long, I think it's almost become a wall that I hide behind. It's what I know now...and maybe a sub-conscious method to not moving on. I sometimes feel that if I really REALLY stop obsessing, then that means I've completely let go...and I think that scares the shit out of me.

I mentioned this in a private post earlier.

You may be on to something Kay.

Soon will be very disappointed. :oP

When does it stop becoming about the other person, and start becoming about the comfort you felt being with them.

No matter how abusive, angry, or anything else, you have developed a comfort with this other person. We all tread many hours trying to get that comfort back.

In essence it doesn't matter WHO fills the comfort void, just as long as it's filled. Easiest target for that, is the one who filled it last, or longest.

We would rather have the known hell, then the unknown anything.

I too find it really easy to have my mind go over and over and over the same shitty, broken record.

The other day I tried a trick whereby I replaced the crappy obsessive movie to a positive memory form my life. College graduation, giving birth, being able to help a family member...I replaced the shitty movie with a happy one, many happy ones.

I know it sounds simple, but it really works. Also, I do this Good Movie Replaying while I'm walking and exercising.

Try putting something else into your brain to keep busy. A good book, movie, project of some sort. Go for a walk with your music on to drown out your thoughts. If all that doesn't work and I mean this lovingly, "Tell yourself to shutup!" I know I've had to tell myself to stop thinking about something, talking out loud (in private of course) just stop it already. Think tacos, fish tacos, gumbo tacos, fried tacos, boiled tacos, shrimp tacos. lol :0) Good Luck ((((Rman))))

They've got gumbo tacos? Hey TD...do you think crabcos could sell gumbo tacos? We could call them Gumbocos...maybe not...

Quit smoking.

That will give you something new to obsess over.