Habits are hard to break and being around or talking to someone daily is one of them. Maybe one of the hardest. Someone you would just pick up the phone to call or text or turn to at dinner and just say whatever you needed to at that exact moment without even a thought is a big part of your life that is no longer there.

It is hard at first, but the more you practice it and make a conscious effort to draw the will from within to not make that contact with them, it will break that routine and start you on a new one.

Just don't let the No Contact give you reason to not contact anyone. Once you find you can eliminate contact with those who hurt you, its can be an easy "out" for you with others when things get too much at times. Its a good tool to use as long as you remember when it really needs to be used. If that makes sense.

Best wishes.

What do I do when I can't even go 24 hrs with NC?

@lukajane : outside of throwing all physical communication devices like cell phones, laptops/computers, etc. away, the will has to come from within. Start with just one time, not reaching out when you feel the urge to. Or not responding to one text or call. It has to come from you. Wishing you the strength to get there.

I don't know how long you have been trying to go without contact but the first few days are the hardest. I am still struggling with the contact issue. You just have to remember the reason your relationship ended and stop romanticizing it. There must have been some issues with the other person. No one is perfect. Eventually not contacting them will get easier. Right now its habit.

Keep your chin up. Things will get better.

I don't know how long you have been trying to go without contact but the first few days are the hardest. I am still struggling with the contact issue. You just have to remember the reason your relationship ended and stop romanticizing it. There must have been some issues with the other person. No one is perfect. Eventually not contacting them will get easier. Right now its habit.

Keep your chin up. Things will get better.

I don't know how long you have been trying to go without contact but the first few days are the hardest. I am still struggling with the contact issue. You just have to remember the reason your relationship ended and stop romanticizing it. There must have been some issues with the other person. No one is perfect. Eventually not contacting them will get easier. Right now its habit.

Keep your chin up. Things will get better.

Thank you for your support. I guesz i just have to "white knuckle" it for now. You sound like you have been through this . Hope your journey is getting easier.

@lukajane: I have.

"white knuckling it" should be added as a step in the process.

Whenever you have to be in a situation with someone you care about, even someone who is a friend, and the only solution is No Contact, it doesn't get any easier to cut communication nor does it get any easier on what it does to your heart. But at least you have experienced what it is you need to do and know what you have to do. Thanks to you as well for your good wishes.

hang in there.