Lonely I'm sending you support and strength because this is the part where like a drug addict going through withdrawal,, your mind plays tricks on you. You will all of a sudden single out the one or two good things, and forget that this man had basically used you as back up for his convenience, makes excuses for his.behavior, and a million other things, most of all that he's living with another woman now who happens to be his wife.

Please try to remebr this man has disrespected you and do not give in. He will just tell you what you want to hear to keep you on the hook. If you give in, you are basically giving him the green light to walk all over you in the future.

Don't be an old woman waiting for this jerk. There is someone out there who will make you number 1, and treat you with the respect you deserve. Otherwise, your this dopes booty call.

Thanks NewAgain, that is exactly how I feel.
Your words mean a lot to me, I am sure I will get by with the support of everyone.
We parted last evening without a word, not even a goodbye. I walked off and did not look back at all.
There was an urge to text him to ask him to return my stuff but I held back. It can come later and If I have lost so much what is some material stuff.

Yes, if you can let the material go. Unless we're talking very valuable, let it go. Don't use it as an excuse to contact him. You will be tempted, just remeber, I guarantee you will feel lousy afterwards, especially when you once again realize he is with his wife, and he's not miraculously going to profess undying love and leave her for good.

Stay strong, fill up your time with improving and growing in new directions. Who knows what wonderful new things are waiting for you!

It's a diamond ring (left by mistake in his bathroom washing my hands) , also he borrowed $2000 and never spoke about returning them. I had also bought him many expensive gifts (which I really do not want back or expecting).
He had also gifted me a pair of diamond earings (not so expensive) which I morally feel I should return.

Word of advice: don't return the diamond earrings until he returns the money he borrowed.

If he says anything, just tell him you are holding the diamonds as collateral until the money is paid.

Sending hugs of support. Stay strong.

He is not asking for them and will probably never want them back (he told me to throw them away if I wanted) , It's just that I do not want to keep anything.
I too have not asked him for the money, just the ring as it was a part of a set.

It was probably a 24 hour thing, a few minutes after that I sent out a text saying why did we have to part so bitterly.
No response as anticipated !
I have been feeling horrible about sending it out ! wish I had not.

Day 1 - Ok
Day 2 - Failed (1 text)

I wouldn't consider that a failure. One text is still really good for attempting to go cold turkey. I know mine is stalking my doings while doing other doings with another doer. That's just the way they roll. In the same context, they will also honor my request of no contact.

He has not asked for no contact, it was self imposed !
He has PTSD and can go cold and uncommunicative for months altogether without reason. It is simpler for him.

I wish I could get my head in that space for a while. Too anxious every morning.

@# 10, yes, well by all means let's make things simpler for him. Ugh. Mr. Uncommunicative PTSD has two women lives being yanked around, more than likely gets laid whenever he feels like it, because odds are ONE of you is going to be in the mood, and if he gets angry at one of you or gets tossed by one of you he still has a warm bed to turn to. Omg. I want to see what this wonderous man looks like. He must be the shiniest man ever.

I am not sure about her, she does not know about me but he is not coming back to me. No chance of meeting him (not more than a coffee that too not in the near future at all ) hopefully never !
Handsome is he who handsome does !

Day # 2 : feel better, had a very busy at work.
He did call and we had an ok conversation about moving on our ways and not fighting unnecesarily and causing pain.
I think I also need to get the feelings of hurt and being cheated out of my way to be free of all emotion towards him.
I look towards being impassive and not hating him or loving him.
I also told him I would not be meeting him now till I was totally free of any emotion towards our relationship. It was just a short conversation and we said good bye.
He texted me later to say sorry and hoped I would understand the situation about his responsibility towards his children.
I did not respond, nor had any desire to , there is no sense flogging a dead horse.
A pat on my back I guess !

Sounds like steps forward. Good for you. Stay on track.