Sounds like she's not capable of being a "friend in need". Sad that she probably doesn't realize that instead of helping you, her words did the opposite. It's time to do some housekeeping, and get rid of all of those who can't provide positivity in your life. I have not heard from so many "friends" since the divorce became public, and I don't miss any of them. A friend in need is a friend indeed - I know who my real friends are now, they're the ones who stuck by me.

Social media at this time is not good idea, glad
You went off. I do not like it myself and use only
Messenger, my ex loves his facebook. Neither of
us used it Against the other as far as i know. He was
pretty Much Hush hush during the divorce and soon
afterward. Him and his GF blocked me which Was a
blessing.

During your grieving it is going to take you awhile
to move thru it all. Just because its legally over that
Doesn't mean you are okay emotionally and mentally.

I found during and after the divorce some people acted
different Toward me. They Pick sides or judge or just stay
out of it. My ex's family i was not welcome anymore since
i had no children, It was not All of them. My XMIL loves his
GF and blood is thicker than Water, thats the way divorce
Can Works out.

The worse the marriage had become the harder It is to move
thru and come to terms with it and the divorce. You feel like
A failure even if you tried your best.

It does get better the healthier and happier you are, people
Stop poking at you to be better and get better. You probably
Will never be the same person again it changes you. HUGS

Why everyone who devirced are talking about a so called waste of time. If you were happy, had kids, shared sweet memories and moments...those years were not a waste of time. Those years were part of your life. Many things end one day. The same happens with relationships.

I think our friends mean well but go about it the wrong way. I have been exactly where you are and it hurts when people respond in a way that makes it worse. I am 4 months post divorce and have actually reconciled that but have recently split with my first boyfriend after divorce and am having a very hard time being positive. I know it is the best thing for me not to be with this man but I am still struggling with unresolved feelings. I am here for you if you need a friend who understands

You will get through the mess and you will find happiness again. You have a new normal and you get to shape it however you like. It will be miserable at first, but not forever.

I divorced in 10/2015. Wife wanted the divorce after 19 years together. She was checked out. Later I found out she had been cheating for a while, screwing around with whomever she could it seems. Years (2 or 3) of lies and cheating. I was pretty crushed. Very rough time.

But you have to continue. Live. Eat, sleep. I had a daughter to take care of, 8 at the time, and 50% custody. So I put on a pleasant face whenever she was with me. I tried to get out - when I could tolerate it, because so often he depression makes you want to hide away. But I had more time to indulge in some hobbies. Spent more time with my family. Slowly got used to the new way of things. Blocked the ex from my life in every way I could (never 100% with minor kids in the picture).

Now, I am doing WAY better. Yeah there is still some residual pain and anger, and I still think about what-ifs now and then. But not often. I have a girlfriend, I've been gigging in a band, I just bought a house. My new life is pretty cool. The ex can go jump off a cliff for all I care.

You'll get there. It takes time but it also takes you deciding to put your efforts and focus into other things - friends, family, hobbies, etc. You'll build a new lifestyle and it can be really great!

Best wishes to you. Hang in there. This site helped me a lot in 2015.