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Clarenceoneal
Clarenceoneal

I'm going through a very fcked-up divorce, it's exhausting. My husband had an affair on side, so I had to file for divorce and deal with everything by myself. When I realized that my husband was gone and it was now just me and my son, I felt not only terrified but alone. I need something that will help me to change my life and my emotional state. I'll be grateful for any advice given. How to pas breakup? How should I behave in front of him, he still gonna be the father of my child and he gonna give visits occasionally.

GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
I'm sorry you're going through this. Did you go through a lawyer? Is your ex paying you spousal support money and also child support?

It's going to be rough in the beginning, but it will get better as time goes by. Do you work, go to school, have friends nearby, family? You need a support system. If you can talk to a therapist, psychiatrist, that would help you, too.

We are here for you, too!
Clarenceoneal
Clarenceoneal
Thank you very much for your concern! Yes, he is paying child support according to the court decision. We moved in an apartment near my parents, so my son had to switch schools. I guess, time will heal all wounds, so I just have to wait and continue to work on myself...
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
You are very strong to have gone through the divorce and doing everything by yourself. As far as how to act around him... act how you want. Just be neutral, polite, professional sounding (not emotional). It will probably be a short interaction, and you can do this!

Lean on your parents, or any other support systems you have in place right now. Maybe meet/say Hello, to some other mothers at your son's new school? Just for someone to chat with.

You're going to be okay!
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
You are strong woman. You might not think so but you are. Learn to love and accept yourself. Learn to be your own best friend. I had to do everything myself. I had no one close by. Then to top it off, my kids did not want to have anything to do with the divorce. So I could not talk to them. But I did it. It will take time and a lot of care. No contact is the way to go unless it involves the kids. When you see him, do not feed into his drama. Just smile, turn around and walk away. The lies they will come up with will make Stephen King seem like an amateur fiction writer. Write as much as you want. It really helps. Do you have a financial advisor and a therapist. Those two are going to be your lifeline for a while. Hugs.
MemphisWH
MemphisWH
Keep a journal, and vent to family and friends.
You will see as time passes you will find new things to talk about and grow with.
Its a great time to embrace your new single life and be the woman you want to be.
boldeagle27
boldeagle27
I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this. It will take time but you will get through it, you may even find that you are happier when you are over him. Try to stay busy and find the activities that bring you joy. Reach out to your supportive friends and/or family. Focus on your child. It will take time but you will find your routine. When it comes to your ex try to be civil with him. Mostly for the sake of your child. Don't go out of your way to be nice to him, but the more you two can work together the better it will be for everyone, mostly your child.
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