I wonder if he wouldve kept doing the boobie grabbin if you didnt let it bother you. Its obvious he was trying to get a reaction out of you. Even though I would interpret that as just being silly, it can also be a very simple minded manipulation tactic.

shine....interesting. I never thought of it that way. It was about 25 yearsw ago, so who knows.
Yes, he is a very manipulative person and he has an innate ability to know which buttons to push on which person in which situation. This is especially true when it comes to women. I don't say that to be mean or anything. He is and I've always known it.
Strange I thought because I knew he lied and was manipulative and he KNEW I knew those things, I thought I would be somewhat protected from it.
When we were first dating he would say "let's go see such and such movie" and I'd say ok. and he would say some of the "guys" would go with us. It always ticked me off cause I wanted it to be us. but everytime I'd say something he'd say well he could uninvite them, so of course ....i didn't. One time he said "let's go see such and such movie" And I said "Ok, let's see if some of the guys wanna go too". He said. "No, I just wanna be with you". (and yes I did do that on purpose!)

I can imagine, when he grabbed your boob, it became a "you don't have a sense of humor" issue...NEVER about them, of course, but we sure have all the issues.

Ugh! Good riddance, girl!

When we had been dating awhile. a new guy moved to the town. Was only going to be here long enough to get his masters degreed. He started running around with us and "the guys". One night my guy wanted to get a vid from the video store, so there we went. When we went inside, I just stood around. The new guy asked me if I didn't want to pick a video. I told him "there's no point. He's either seen it, doesn't want to see it, doesnt like who is in it or whatever" The new guy looked at me like I was this shrew. Fast forward to end of the semester. My guy says "Let's go get a vid". We get to the store. New guy and I say "We will just wait here". My guy says "No, come in.....I'll let you pick one out!" New guy and I looked at each other and laughed. He'd learned. No point in asking why I put up with that bs. Looking back I have no idea

TMI, no not that time. He was mostly pissed because I did punch him and it hurt. That was a huge difference between us. If I say I'm going to do something, I almost always do. I don't do a lot of empty promises.
With him though, if he thought it, he said it. So, it was a problem when I said if you do that, then I am going to do this. He would say ok. Then when the time came he would say..."Are you really gonna?"
We had bonus money come in twice a year. We usually split it. One time he wanted/needed it all for one of his latest hobby things. I was not happy. He said..."Well, you can have all of it next time." A month before the next time "Are you really gonna take all of it?" Yes, I am. You said I could and I am. But I used it to buy furniture for US...not something for myself. When we split up....I took that furniture with me, too!

Anyway, but in he later years, he would make remarks about/to me and if I called him on it he would say "I was just joking".
Yet I was the mean one because I was sarcastic and mean (true)...ah well. little by little I get better