what in the what?!

Today he promised that he would have and hold in sickness and health forsaking all others till death does them part. To the 4th woman.

The woman he met thru online dating 6 months at least before he even let me know he was unhappy. The one that was his "ear" when he didn't have anyone to talk to. The one that lived all the way across the country. The one he had only seen in person a few times. The one he moved here during Thanksgiving week.

They got married today.

In other news, a man I met online but have not really spent any time with, texted me last night wanting to come over. He just got off work and it was after 10. THIS after he'd told me earlier he wanted to go slow and was not looking for a bed mate. He said just for a massage and back rub. I said no. He promised satisfaction guaranteed. I said no. He asked if I was Lesbian. I said no and blocked him.

I'm taking my dog and the rest of my fireball whiskey and going to bed.

I hear you, girl. My X is engaged to someone now, and it's a weird feeling, to say the least. However, his 4th? Sounds like marriage is a thing for him and not really the "til death do we part" part of it. You're better off without him.

And to the online guy: They usually are looking for a bedmate, so good call there staying away. The men online, I've said a million times, give ten percent to ten girls instead of 100 percent to one.

I used to get upset when I would see ex with his gf. Even when they are stalking me. But then I thought about it.

She gets to watch him pick his nose, fart and burp. That makes me smile.

MsViv - hahahahahaha! I often think, good, he's someone else's problem now. LOL!

Good riddance to him. Sorry your hurting. You deserve better. It always amazes me that they believe a new person will fix what's wrong inside of them, or they just needed a new toy to entertain them. God help us if they get sad or bored. Like having a two year old for a spouse. At least he's someone else's child now.
MissViv, LMAO! And I couldn't have said it better

Funnily enough one of the things I told my therapist when we were talking about how he and this woman could not possibly really KNOW ecah other, was the little things. The little things that erode a relationship and don't show up on skype. Things like how he always picks his nose while he's driving.

I have actually met some nice guys online. we just didnt click and/or they lived too far away. There are always the jerks of course online and off.

I read something once...cannot remember where.....

Two tears passing each other going the opposite direction. One tear says "I cry because he's not mine anymore." The other tear says "I cry because now he's mine."

Jaclyn, that's a cool saying. I'm glad you didn't get together with that guy from online, all he wanted was a booty call. Keep it movin. People like that are cheap, common and easy to replace, not to mention sexually transmitted diseases. If they hop right in bed with you, you can bet there's a long list of been there done them's.

Two sayings come to mind # 1 If you want to find out who someone really is, live with them! #2 if you have been married three times and they all ended in divorce you have a problem and it's time to look in the mirror. Number four won't fix what's wrong with him. 1, 2, and 3, didn't get til death did them part. Most likely number four won't either. I like what TTM said he likes the marriage part, the vows? Not so much. You are truly better off he is her problem now and it's not too far fetched to imagine her on one of these boards in the near future wondering what the heck happened to her life, while he works on #5. I know it hurts though and for that I am sorry. Big hugs and hang in there.

In regards to ex: have any of you read this? www.marriagemax.com/married-right-person.asp

I hope you can get it. Describes my ex to a "t". always asking why our relationship couldn't stay/be like it was when we were "courting". I have noticed some maturity in him and changes. I think due to his best friend and the church they are involved in. Whether that will hold up now, I don't know. He's lived by himself for close to two years and that is a first. Now she is there of course. Still, his friend kept him on even keel so who knows.

No, I do not and never have done casual sex. did have a fling after my divorce. I was feeling ugly and undesirable. It was brief, fun, and I enjoyed it-but we both knew it was just a fling. No harm, no foul.

I so agree with you, Blondie. And I agree with the sentiment that it's the "little things" that erode a relationship, or build it, depending how you look at it. You really don't know who someone is until you live with them, and see the daily, in and out stuff. Most people online are in it for sex, or in it for "right now" while they have others waiting in the wings. It's really a buffet of choices, and people enjoy the constant choices over digging in.

Someone who constantly marries would be a red flag for me.

Hi Jaclyn: I'm sorry that it hurt. Mine got remarried within days of receiving the divorce decree/order. But I tried to look at it that it was a good thing because maybe this time he would change and stop being abusive and beating up women, but it didn't happen and he's on Wife No. 5. He never learned anything from any of his wives.

I'm sorry about the online guy. That guy wasn't a good one and he was probably going down a list of women calling for sex and getting denied. He was so into booty calls and lying that he finally had to stop lying and let the real him out and try to get sex. I laughed out loud about the lesbian remark--it's like he couldn't understand that you could find him totally resistable. There ARE great guys out there. And there are great guys on this board that respond and that reassures me that good guys exist. So don't let this get you down. It's just another hurdle we jump in life. And tomorrow is a fresh new start.

Picks his nose in the car.. I love it.
Its like some people think they cant bee seen while driving, I swear.
I cant tell you how many times I've seen people on the road, two knuckles deep digging around like the answers to lifes mysteries are up there.
I once saw a woman at a red light smell her armpit for BO. Maybe shes your ex husbands new wife.

LOLOL. Nah, I'm sure she's actually a nice woman. She reminds me of me. He doesn't go for icky women. He's just good at pushing buttons and manipulating.
Yeah, I dont know why he thinks they cant see. When we had been together awhile, we would be driving and he would grab my boob so the person coming the opposite way could see. I kept telling him to stop. I finally told him do it one more time and I'm gonna punch you. He did and I punched him. He got mad cause it hurt. Well duh..I don't punch like a sissy girl.....But he never did it again.
Everyday, i feel a little better and I cry a little less. Have a feeling she thinks she is wife # 3 not #4 but not my prob. He asked if I want him to say hello or not if we see each other. I told him i didn't care. But actually I do and I don't want him to. I want to be total strangers cause that's what we are. So that's what I'm gonna tell him....just walk on by...smoke and mirrors